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Posted by on May 20, 2013 in Advice for Men, Advice for Women, Intimacy | 16 comments Tags: , ,

7 Ways People Make Cheating Even Worse

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When a person finds out they have been cheated on it is not a good feeling. Betrayal and disappointment hit hard and some never truly recover from it. It is a very negative experience and sometimes the cheater will make decisions that actually adds to what was already a knockout blow. Some may say it makes no difference but I believe these seven things will feel like you’re being kicked when you have already been knocked down.

Cheating with their friend or family member.

This is without a doubt one of the worst cheating circumstances to be in. Whereas a stranger being involved leaves the victim with only one person to truly address. This scenario has them dealing with the betrayal of two people. This is truly overwhelming to say the least and leaves less room for people to be able to work past the infidelity.

Unprotected Sex.

STD’s and unwanted pregnancies, need I say more. They are already crossing a line they shouldn’t but this just opens the door to more drama. People should already be mindful with putting themselves at risk with unprotected sex. Adding in the fact that they will be going home to someone else is an even greater reason why they should make a better decision.

Bringing the kids around.

When kids are involved bringing them around the “side piece” just adds fuel to the fire. Nobody likes the idea of their children being exposed to the person that is involved in this betrayal. Even in an innocent and normal setting this action will not sit well with the victim. It only makes it harder for forgiveness to be embraced.

Cheating with their enemy.

Nobody likes to be cheated on but did they really have to do it with the person that their partner dislikes with a passion. This choice of who they cheated on their partner with definitely adds an extra sting. They have allowed this person to have something over their partner (that is how the victim may view it) and that can lead to even more issues.

Sending provocative photos.

As if the cheating wasn’t bad enough they want to go out and give a souvenir too. I know we live in an age where people send pictures all the time but is it really necessary. In my opinion that behavior is risky on its own but being in a relationship makes it even worse. They better hope the person they cheated with never becomes vindictive. That can put them at their mercy and that isn’t a good position to be if they are hoping to work things out with their partner.

Doing it in the same bed your partner sleeps in.

They might as well set the mattress on fire right now and just get rid of it. Not that getting a hotel excuses anyone from cheating but it certainly would be preferred by the victim. Can anyone really expect that person to feel comfortable sleeping in that bed knowing what went down. It just comes across as greater level of disrespect and if caught in action can lead to some serious violence.

Sleeping with their co-worker.

By going this route the cheater has now risked creating a huge ball of negativity at their partners workplace. The door is now open to them being talked about behind their back and people knowing their unfortunate business. Also the side piece may get jealous and purposely try to create trouble for the victim. If it all comes to surface the victim may not be able to bear working at that place and that just adds to an already bad situation.

I understand that some people make mistakes but others just have no respect for the relationship they are in. I realize that some people are hurting badly in their relationships and looking to fill the void that exists. While some are only concerned about their desires and could care less about the damage it may cause others. No matter the circumstances always remember that cheating won’t solve anything and it is something that we should try to steer away from. It can only mask the real issues and/or make things a lot worse. Either way it isn’t worth it and there is always a better approach a person can take.

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16 Comments

  1. You described many of the things that have definitely made it worse for me & others I know who’ve also gone through it. Another point to add may be trying to get back with person who got cheated on for selfish reasons only. It’s one thing to perhaps contact the person you cheated on to try to rekindle a broken damaged relationship if you really regret having cheated on your partner, admit what you did was wrong, apologize to them, & sincerely want to show them you are really looking for a mature, game-free relationship. It’s another to contact the one you cheated on, months or years later while still with the “other” one and laying on the charm to see if you can get a little “fun”.

  2. no need to be professional to understand these things

  3. My husband has been cheating on me since April in front of my face. They supposedly broke it off at the end of August, but come to find out they never quit talking and are now doing it in front of my face again. When I get money for my lawyer I will divorce him as much as I don't want to. This has been so painful, I hope no one else ever goes through this.

  4. My husband did all the above .best friend .co workers .photos splashed across his web page .one he sent to a former coworker we both worked with thru his g msil that he gave our 15 year old password and for her teachers to contact ..reading stories on a very sexually disturbing webbsite along with his photos of him naked some with females but they wrote on wall detailed stories if how he did them .he was meeting them in parks parking lots there houses ..he was diagnosed as a sex addict .I tried to work thru this with him .I went thrunintense therapies .only to find out the month we bought our new home he had just screwed one thst weekend and had never stopped .agsin he swears he has learned .but I dont feel it .it destroyed me to my core .im working daily just to want to go thru another day ..I met women that went thru therapy and worked theu this but he doesn't do therapy .goes to support group few weeks then stopped again .mam I realky just waiting my time .I lived this man dearly 18 years .finding out 16 of them were lies lies lies .he says he lives me .kills him for what he DoD .but I dont see addiction ir nit you had to start at some point .sleeping with my bf for 7 months isn't to me addiction .I dont see hoe he can truly love me and my gut tells me he hasn't changed .hes done nothing different. I need to bring myself up .I feel trapped with heath issues .I coukd do things to better that .my self esteem .whst self esteem .I hate who ive become .all the medications for anxiety depression leave me tired .my panic is strong .where do I begin …im so frustrated .I cant jump off this circle im running around in …feel little hope st times .just want my fun .living besutiful healthy loved exercising .people .creative .strong .people person .giving .motivsted self only wiser back …

  5. You forgot to mention falling in love, sex is one thing but when they actually fall in love , that's a bigger problem I think.

  6. Having a baby!!! That should jave been first

  7. Laughing@-@…

  8. I enjoyed that article…..I was cheated on. I was introduced to his friend from years ago, they exchanged numbers. Later, I found out they use to be engaged. It was so heart breaking being married 16 years and going through hell hoping things would change. This wasn't his first infidelity. I HAD A BROKE HEART 8 years ago but now my heart is mended and I'm ready to fall in love again. I was served divorced papers 3 days before my 40th bday. It was a struggle but God told me in 2006 "THE BEST IS YET TO COME"

  9. yeah my husband had women sleep on his bed, even the woman peed on the bed which was soo disgusting..

  10. Mary, if I'm not too personal, is this "In front of Your Face", action something that you have conditioned yourself to allow? Maybe you shouldn't focus so much on having the money as opposed to the "Peace" of being loved, respected, appreciated for the woman you are? Check into the Laws of your state. Infidelity in a marriage COULD POSSIBLY be one of those circumstances where the State will offer help in your situation..especially if you have kids. I'm no expert, but it seems that your husband has already made his decision and the fact that you are allowing him to continue, only give him the idea that "You Approve".

  11. cheaters cheat themselves and others out of a life time love and happiness, Selfish and sickening…. cheaters are not winners!!!

  12. My boyfriend has been exchanging pictures for almost our entire relationship (1 year). I found out last week and have no idea how to proceed from here. We haven't really talked about it because he doesn't open up. Any advice? Please help me.

  13. My ex-husband covered a lot of things on this list. Not only did he cheat with his patients (workplace), but it resulted in more than one child (unprotected) and he collected sexual photos of several patients and other women and introduced one of the patients to our children while we were still married (as was she). He ended up losing his family as well as his license and a lucrative career for which he went to school numerous years. The bottom line is that in this situation, people don’t think before they act. He was angry that I got rid of him, but it was the best decision I’ve ever made.

  14. …call him out on it! he obviously doesn't respect you.

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