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Posted by on Jul 12, 2013 in Advice for Women, Dating, Single | 47 comments Tags: , ,

8 Things a Woman Should NEVER Get Confused

black woman with a confused look

Alicia Keys said it best, “A real man knows a real woman when he seeees her.” But what she didn’t know is that a real man was going to go write a book and tell these young girls to think like a man, causing them to get confused and make twerking videos on Youtube. Basically, we got it all mixed up. We can’t continue going on rants about how lost our young ladies are without showing them the way. So I took it upon myself to compile a small list of the preponderance(you like that word huh?) that has our young ladies baffled. No, I’m not excusing men, but Rome wasn’t built-in a day, so work with me. For young girls who don’t know and for grown women who want to help out those following in their footsteps, these are the things you should NEVER get confused.

1. Sex for Love: He drinks a Red Bull, stretches, and even keeps his Timbs on; then acts like everything but a gentleman in the bedroom ’til your toes catch a cramp. But make no mistake, his heart is in his chest, not his underwear.

2. Attention for Loyalty: “But he’s coming home to me every night”=the cry of a woman who forgot her worth a long time ago. A man will have sex with your sister, drive home with the gas money you gave him, and say “Baby I had a long day, I just wanna cuddle” when you try to give him goodnight sex. You think that attention he’s giving you means you’re not sharing it with someone else? Yeah..ok.

3. Good looks for Beauty: You may go through life gracing every mirror you walk past, but if you treat everyone like they’re beneath you, your family will be the only ones at your funeral. The ones who do show up.

4. Real N**ga for a Real Man: Some girls want a guy to “put them in their place” like a parent does a child. A real man wants a woman who knows her place is by his side.

5. Compliments for Respect: He went and ‘liked’ all your bathroom sink mirror pics and recited a couple Drake lines so you think it’s real huh? The more you blush, the more he’s going to tutor his homeboys on how to get you to have sex after he tells you he’s “just not ready for a relationship”.

6. Nice personality for Good character: He can make you laugh. Check. He’s smooth with words. Check. He’s witty and can hold an intelligent conversation? Check. But on that weekend you’re on your period, will he turn down that one thirsty chick he used to have sex with that never learned to let go?

7. Lust for Chemistry: You know that tingly feeling you get when you first see him. Everything just seems right about his smile, his walk, and the way he looks at you? It’s called hormones, not love at first sight.

8. Cockiness for High Self Esteem: A bad b**ch has nothing on a woman who knows she’s a queen. Period.

So here comes that hug your Mom would give you after she gave you a whooping and told you you’d thank her for it later. Ladies, stop getting things mixed up. No, it’s not your fault you have to decode anything, but it’s better to know now than to be left feeling lonely years later running into the arms of some man who just isn’t for you. Knowing the game keeps you from having to play it, and if you don’t play it, you’ll never lose.

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About Derrick Jaxn
Corporate American and aspiring author but for now, I just make people say "Wow, I never thought about it like that" at www.derrickjaxn.com.

47 Comments

  1. Although it may hurt some, honesty never fails! Great advice and words of wisdom!

  2. Some of that was hard to swallow, but it’s good to know. Lol.

  3. The first two points is a little to vague for me. But I appreciate everything else

    • 1. Great sex doesn’t mean he’s in love. Can’t take everything a man says to heart when he’s in the moment.
      2.Just because he “comes home every night” doesn’t mean he’s being faithful.

      • In a relationship right now with a married man and I know his wife be saying he comes home at night what about the nights he dont come home?

        • WHY would you choose to be in a relationship with a married man? Please run as far away as possible. He will not be loyal to you if he is cheating with you.

        • Aalyah if hes married why and how can you call it a relationship????

  4. I haven’t made these mistake yet but I’m glad I read this

  5. great

  6. Great sermon sir

  7. Thank you. Great advice and key eye openers!

  8. this is so true

  9. Very well put!

  10. He is so right.

  11. I totally agree with this post.

  12. Yessir!!!

  13. That last sentence…Amen

  14. So true. Had to learn the hard way.

  15. Love it! Love it! God bless you exceedingly and more abundantly above all you ask or imagine of Him. Amen:)

  16. Nice post. I need to share this

  17. The part where he said just not ready for a relationship hmm I could relate to that …

  18. very accurate

  19. MMmhmmm this will me screen shoot and sent to a few of my girls! Reality is not always wrapped with a bow!

  20. I'm old so can someone tell me what a boas is?

  21. Read the Bible…The Book of Ruth

  22. Tell it like it is…..thanks.

  23. Great article!

  24. Its not a TREND Kathy it's in the bible….read the book of Ruth.

  25. yes great article Derrik.. but no need to look so angry in the pic

  26. Yup, the son of a senior played me like a game, he got what he wanted after a few months. Please. Just cause he goes to church most of his life, doesn't always me he is a good man, I was confused, angry and everything, I have facts on him that I could always show our friends, but waiting for the moment and I don't know if they will kick him out after hurting me, paying me as his sick game.

  27. Son of a senior paster**

  28. Wow Tc, Kathy simply asked a question. It appears Rose already answered her. A month before you. Kathy also never mentioned a TREND Tc. :-)

  29. It was the lighting. lol Thanks for reading

  30. Glad you enjoyed it Verdell. Please continue to support myself and Stephan Speaks. God bless.

  31. LOVE IT…SO ON POINT!!!!

  32. Way a man will tell they love u an when you don’t give them what they want he start calling name everything but the child of god in the being everything is OK but as time go no than the real them come out I pray ask god to send the right one there are not out I have seen him yet but it OK I just want to no where they at

  33. Definitely the truth it took me some time to learn all of this and now I'm glad I did.

  34. Love it my summer is going to be a great time to Learn why I enjoy being single at 40

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