I know I am a little late with this, but let me just say I hope everyone had a Happy Mother’s Day. It is always great when we take the time to celebrate those that we love. Many mothers do so much to take care of the home and raise children. They definitely deserve this day of appreciation and praise. I think we should celebrate mothers more often, but also celebrate men and women all around. As far as I’m concerned, everybody deserves love. Unfortunately too many people are not getting what they deserve. Society needs to do a better job of making sure we properly take care of our women as well as uplift the men. A person goes through so much and for so many that void of appreciation makes life so much harder. It would be a tough task to make sure every person received what they needed emotionally. Even the men and women in relationships are feeling the void and we need to do better to correct that. Let me help guide you in taking the right steps to show the appreciation I believe we all would like to receive.
Say “Thank You”
As simple as those words are, we seem to overlook them way too much. A simple thank you can go a long way in showing some level of appreciation. It does not matter if what they just did for you was something simple or extravagant. A thank you is always in order. Make a conscious effort to say those words, and never assume you don’t need to say it. Everyone likes for their efforts to be acknowledged. Saying thank you is a great way to do that.
Don’t take them for granted
Sometimes people develop a mentality that a person “is supposed to do that”. Let’s get something straight, nobody has to do anything. They can always choose not to do a thing for you. So anything they do should be valued and appreciated. Understand that if a person takes the time and energy to do something for you, then you can at least show them some appreciation for it. Nobody likes to be taken for granted. So if you catch yourself taking that route (or get called out on it) then acknowledge it for what it is and make the necessary corrections.
Learn their “Love Language”
Everyone has a way that they give and receive love, but it doesn’t always line up with the person you are with. While you may feel you are showing your partner love and appreciation your efforts may be falling short. Why? Because it isn’t speaking to their need and what they are looking for. Take time to find out how they like to be loved and appreciated. Never hesitate to ask what improvements you can make in that department. When you two get on the same page it will make a huge difference in creating a much happier and fulfilling relationship.
I usually write to one gender at a time because I want people to focus on what they can do better and not on what the other person is not doing. Today I wanted to speak to both men and women while addressing this topic. So with that said, do not take this moment to evaluate if you are being appreciated properly, instead ask yourself are you doing everything you can to show others and that special someone the appreciation that they deserve. As people we tend to overlook the art of showing appreciation and fail to realize the impact it has on each other. When a person knows you value them and recognize their efforts, it makes them want to do more for you. It makes them feel loved, fulfilled, and gives the strength desired to do better. Appreciation breeds production, and goes a long way towards moving things in a much better direction. Don’t wait for a special occasion, take the time today and everyday moving forward to show the person in your life and anybody that does for you, the appreciation they desire and deserve.
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You are such an incredible author!!! I really admire u. Keep doing what you are good at…
Thank you so much. I really appreciate that : )
Since this is an article for both men and women, I want to personally take the time to say THANK YOU Stephan for all the articles you write to better relationships, THANK YOU for all the time to dedicate to answer questions/emails/questions people(that you don’t even know)may have to ask you. Plus you do it for free and with love?! I seriously want to meet you in real life just to tell you all this. Not many people nowadays are dedicated 🙂
That felt good. 🙂
Awwww thanks Joelle I really do appreciate everything you just said : ). It is moments like this that I know without a doubt that I am doing what I was called to do.
This is So Very True…Showing Appreaciation Takes the Pressure Off and It Makes You More Willing to Cater to the Needs of Your SigniFiCant Other than For Everything Feeling Like a Chore….<True Story!!!! Thanks for This Article of Advice…You Truely Mark the Tools for Having a Happy, Healthy and Loving Relationship!!!!
This is So Very True. Showing Appreciation Takes the Pressure Off and Makes You More Willing to Cater to the Needs of Your Significant Other than for Everything Feeling Like a Chore. <—True Story…Thank You for Your Advice Articles. They Really Mark the Tools for Having a Happy, Healthy, and Loving RelationShip!!!!
Yes and the more people start to apply this, the better things will be…Thank you, I really appreciate that.
Stephan is one of the rare people I had chance to talk to about m/w relations and things that are important to realize … and the way he sees things and encourage people … and the way how he unselfishly answers on questions is something worth of loving and appreciating … Man with such knowledge and deep understanding deserves only the best ! Thanks a lot for all your advices and articles that can help all of us to go out of the frame and look brighter on things in life !
thank you so much Missy. I’m glad I could help you and everyone that takes the time to read my articles.
Thank you for your very meaning full advice.
I appreciate that Arnold, just trying to do what I can to help
Treat your partner as you want to be treated. Always go to bed friends. Never refuse your partner sex. Never give your partner the silent treatment talk things through..
That is very true! a good communication brings a good relationship. We should apply that…
I’m impressed with your article!
thank you very much william, I am glad you enjoyed it.
I just love your articles. Going through a divorce your words have made me do some self reflecting instead of wasting my time with hate & resentment. I do believe God has a plan, with your words it makes me keep myself on track, stay focus on me not him anymore. Thank you. I think the most profound thing you said in this article is appreciation breads production, I liked it so much it wrote it down so I wouldn’t lose that thought. God bless you.
WOW THANK YOU FOR SHARING WHAT GOD HAS PLACED ON YOUR HEART
Excellent article. Thanks so much for all you do!