Online Dating: The Good & Bad of Looking Online for a Companion

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Online Dating: The Good & The Bad

Posted by Stephan Labossiere in Advice for Men, Advice for Women, Dating | 26 comments |Tags: , ,

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I know I am a little late with this, but I gave a friend my word I would speak on it and I must keep my word. As most of you may already know Don Cornelius was the host of the popular show “Soul Train”. He recently passed away at the age of 75 from a self-inflicted gun shot wound to the head. Don Cornelius was the creator, writer, and producer of the dance/music show Soul Train. He was very admired and loved by many, and it is an unfortunate loss.

Many people who spoke to me about it expressed shock and confusion as to why such a popular and loved man would take his own life. I do not know Don Cornelius personally but what I do know is that many of us overlook the fact that a lot of people are dealing with things that we have no clue about. We are quick to assume that fame and fortune equals happiness and stability. We are quick to accept the smiles on people’s faces as proof that all is ok. We don’t take enough time to dig deeper and then when something happens like this we wonder how could this be. We live in a world that has created more emotional detachment from each other through the rise of technology. We rather  text than talk. We can send emails and tweet, but we don’t take as much face to face time with those we care about. With this people not only are more disconnected, but the hurt and troubled have found more ways to hide their pain. If we would make more of an effort to bond with each other than we may actually be able to help one another before something bad happens. If we are going to be so caught up in our own worlds, then we can’t be surprised when we find out that the world of another may have been crumbling right before our eyes.

Again I cannot speak on specifically what contributed to Don Cornelius death. I can only assume that it was a suicide based on the reports but I wasn’t there so I have no clue. I just know that the second I heard about it I thought to myself how we never know what some people are going through. My prayers go out to his family and friends. My prayers go out to anyone who has had to lose a loved one especially in such a manner. Lets take notice of any story such as this and allow it to be a reminder that we need to pay more attention to each other and be more aware of what each of us is going through. It is in that awareness that we will be able to find solutions and make progress.

About Stephan Labossiere
is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, Speaker, and Author of the #1 Best Seller "God Where Is My Boaz" as well as the Award Winning book "How To Get A Woman To Have Sex With You...If You're Her Husband". Stephan is on a mission to help men and women experience happier, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships. He is a highly sought after coach and speaker who has been seen, heard and chronicled in various national and international media outlets. soulmate

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  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Krystal-McAllister/1565825414 Krystal McAllister

    Interesting post 

    • Anonymous

      thank you

  • Carmelcup

    I don’t think online dating is from me, I’ve heard too many horror stories.

  • Carmelcup

    I don’t think online dating is from me, I’ve heard too many horror stories.

    • Anonymous

      I can understand that, but there are also many success stories

  • http://twitter.com/Karmah2012 Karmah2012♐

    very good article Stephan. takes alot of fear out of online dating!

    • RelationshipExpert

      thanks Karmah : ). glad you enjoyed it, and glad it has helped remove some of the fears.

  • Mochadlyte

    Online dating is what you make it….. I used to feel like I can’t get a man in reality so I have to resort to the Internet? Now I go into things with an open mind and don’t settle until I get what I want!!!!!

    • RelationshipExpert

      Exactly Mochadlyte : ) an open mind can open the doors to so much more.

  • Tthall67

    Is there a site out there that’s better than others?

    • niks

      Yupp!!! Have you heard of freakin-out?? Its pretty kool and best me and my overseas friend can video chat almost whole night :) :P

  • Addrain

    Online dating scares me. I have had terrible ‘luck’ with them. But I’ve heard great stories that ended in marriage. Eharmony I hear is one of the better ones.

    • Happynow….

      I met my soulmate on match, I guess i was lucky as he was the first – and only internet date I had! 3 years later happily married…  Now we DID email for 4 months before we met so I felt like I new him, but I have never bee happier (I am in my 40’s)   Good luck :-)

  • Samantha

    See you tweet post on twitter all the time and actually decided to read one… I’m glad I did. You article was very articulate, professional, and well put together. Very interesting.. Glad I know about your site now as I will be visiting more often!

  • Steve

    I’ve tried online dating a lot as I’m not really a bar person. I met my 2nd wife on Match. Unfortunately it did not work out, so I’m trying again. It’s very, very frustrating that a lot of women just don’t represent themselves accurately on their profile. More than 6 times I’ve met a woman for a first date, only to find out she is 40 lbs heavier than her photo. Even after I asked if her photo was recent. Others like to play the back & forth email game, which I just don’t have time for. I understand the hesitancy to give a phone number out in order to get acquainted, but gheez, just dial *67 in front of my number the first time you call so my caller ID does not register. There are definitely online female players also. I understand that men can misrepresent themselves in their profile also, but my experience has shown that women do it much more.

  • wellingtonsmom

    I did the online dating thing and found it very disappointing. For the most part the men were to preoccupied with my looks, I am a 44yr old single mom, I am very active and work out 3-4x’s a week I veggie juice daily and try to maintain my overall appearance. I found that 90% of the men I met lied abt appearance, weight and height and everything else, so I cancelled my subscription.

  • Tracy

    I had a very positive experience with online dating. I met someone online 9 months ago and things are going very well. We talked on the phone for 3 weeks prior to our first meeting. We have been together ever since and we are now talking about getting engaged. The process does work, but as stated in the article, you need to develop a process to determine who is serious and who is not.
    I will say even if I did not find my Mr. Right, the process of creating an online profile and going through the dating/elimination process was a rewarding experience that helped me define the type of person I want to pursue a long-term relationship with.

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