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His Journey From Lust To Love

I am a fan of your page and I both enjoy and appreciate your work. I just wanted to drop my story to share with you and your fans…

I’m a 36 year old man from Boston, and even though I have always tried to be a good person, I haven’t always been a good boyfriend. I’ve always been considered attractive, caring, successful, and to have a good personality. In my twenties this meant me being able to get lots of woman. I’d both lie and cheat in order to see multiple women simultaneously. I met some good women during these years, but i wanted sex not love. I was not giving the best of myself to the women I was dealing with, and that would lead to even the good ones giving less than their best. I started blaming them instead of myself. After a while the older I got the more I wanted love and a real relationship. A month before I turned 30 my mother passed away suddenly, and that was the breaking point for me, I was done with the games. For the next six years I had back to back to back years of relationships where karma paid me back as I tried to create love with women who neither deserved me nor appreciated my efforts. One month ago yesterday I met the most beautiful woman in the world, and I’m not just saying that, she really is. I came to find out not only was she extremely intelligent, and had a great personality, but she was the most amazing woman I have ever met. She is the most receptive and appreciative woman to both big and small gestures. She truly makes me want to give her the world. Our first two phone conversations each lasted 3 hours, and the third one lasted 5 hours. We had a great connection right from the beginning and I knew this was different. I thought about her literally all day for the first week. After two weeks we were in a relationship, and after 3 weeks we were in love. I was so close to giving up on love and finding a loving wife. Now I am crazy about a spectacular woman who I am sure is going to be my wife. I would tell anyone who asks to never give up on love. It’s not only everything I hoped it would be, it’s so much more….

Stephan’s Side Note: This is a great example of a man growing and learning the value of love. He had to pay his dues after causing plenty of hurt to others, but he acknowledged his contribution to the issues, and owned up to it. Also recognize that he kept jumping from relationship to relationship, and that only kept him in the cycle of negativity for a long period of time. Yet by staying positive and open to love he was able finally walk into it. I hope he continues to grow as a man, and work on building the foundation that can make this a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship.

  • Keiva Young
    Posted at 13:44h, 03 March Reply

    I'm glad that he's progressed, but after only a month, couldn't this be puppy love?

  • Kimberly Maggard-Robinson
    Posted at 13:52h, 03 March Reply

    Awesome ! Life is a journey, we live and we learn ! The more you know , the more you grow !

  • Gail Roddy
    Posted at 14:00h, 03 March Reply

    He finally realized he was a grown man. At 36. Good for him.

  • Melissa Tracey Manning
    Posted at 14:04h, 03 March Reply

    Nice it takes a brave man 2 admit his wrong doin wish him the best of luck

  • LaTanya Robinson
    Posted at 17:52h, 03 March Reply

    Great testimony. Hope Karma has been repaid

  • Charlene Strickland
    Posted at 21:12h, 03 March Reply

    I found this man's very real and relatable. And it's wonderful he changed he attitude/behavoir and finally found love. Sometimes women find themselves in the same situation but for. ifferent reasons or motivations. It's usually low self-esteem that drives a woman to sleep with multiple men because she's looking for love in all the wrong places. As stated in the article, don't give up on love.

  • Liz Washington
    Posted at 01:55h, 04 March Reply

    I respect that he realized his issues and stopped blaming women for his faults and at a younger age(I'm 47). There's men older than me still living this destructive lifestyle. Sad to see that it took a personal tragedy(my condolences to you) to wake up. But nonetheless better late than never. Props to you 🙂

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