Comments on: You Are Not In Love, You Just Love What He Represents

By: Brooke James

Brooke James — Wed, 15 Apr 2015 20:31:00 +0000

Why is this article solely focused on women duping themselves and everyone around them into believing they are in love? Just because this is not something that our society, despite its progression, harps on–that men just want to find someone to love and marry even if it means they’re with the wrong person–does not mean that it doesn’t exist equally among genders. I will agree that this is a problem among people which is resulting in a higher-than-ever divorce rate, but it is certainly not gender specific. It’s just a matter of what people choose to see. If we see a couple that we think is wrong for each other we automatically assume that it is the female who is staying with him just for the sake of being “in love.” This is because that is what our society focuses on and instills in people’s minds. We glorify independent men yet we scrutinize independent women. Truth be told, though, seeking companionship is an innate trait of all humans, male and female. I have witnessed just as many men holding on to toxic relationships as I have women and I do not think it is fair to continuously paint women as these desperate beings longing for a male companion to make them a “loving” wife.

By: F8thwalker

F8thwalker — Wed, 15 Apr 2015 12:02:00 +0000

I’ve warned many men that women can pretend real well and will play the “the roll” for a long time to get what we want.
We are great deceivers and actresses and men are too clueless to see through the facade. They are too enamored with her outer appearance and his misconstrued perception of women as being innocent and harmless to notice the cold calculating heart underneath that secretly gates you and the unfulfilling life you forced her to choose. After all you are a good man who offered her an opportunity that may never come from someone else even if you aren’t the right man for her. So she had to take, that’s what society dictates for her to do and she’s just a victim of circumstance.
So after a 10 or maybe 20 year marriage she can say “So long sucker” and walk away leaving a guy blindsided, broken and wondering what did he do wrong. You didn’t take her selfish nature seriously and gave excuses for her insolent behavior. Wake up what you see is what you get and if you don’t leave you deserve it all. Sometimes even men don’t know their self worth.

By: Amanda Louise

Amanda Louise — Wed, 15 Apr 2015 04:06:00 +0000

I always go with my gut feeling, if something’s not right or I’m not feeling it that’s the END. Although I’m sure I’m not the only women to admit I have ignored those feelings because I don’t want to START OVER or BE ALONE.

By: Danni V

Danni V — Tue, 14 Apr 2015 22:46:00 +0000

Stephan, Men do a similar thing. The difference is men figure: By this time, when i am making said amount at this age—I am gonna get married. And it really doesn’t matter who the woman is, she just should be present at the time when he is ready to commit to the settled life style. Who ever she is, he just inserts her in that particular juncture of his life. The Word of God only chides that a woman is to RESPECT the man and love will come to them, while that may be true and workable in the woman’s case. While the Word of God says, that a husband should Love his Wife and if men just insert said woman, here—Is that love and just fulfilling a contract and the duties within it? Stephan, your reply please?

By: T.G

T.G — Tue, 14 Apr 2015 20:08:00 +0000

This is true but just as a woman uses a man a man does the same it seems today it’s more of a business transaction than for love. I believe a lot of us use the words and validation for connecting to one another is superficially supplied. Love exists, but today were so caught up in what everyone else thinks and how we look as supposed to taking responsibility for our own actions. Be responsible with each others hearts, that welcomes love In a open space and mind..

By: Regina Ekop

Regina Ekop — Sun, 22 Mar 2015 19:10:47 +0000

It's well man. U ought to be sad after 2 failed marriages bt u hav to be with someone who truly loves u for who u r not just that she needs to get married. Be greatful that ur previous partners actually opened up to u along the line.

By: Monique Cobb

Monique Cobb — Sun, 11 Jan 2015 02:49:24 +0000

That's so heartbreaking…