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Stephan Labossiere is a man on a mission, and that mission is to make relationships happier and more fulfilling.

As a certified relationship coach, a speaker and author, Stephan seizes every opportunity to help both men and women overcome the challenges that hinder their relationships. From understanding the opposite sex, to navigating the paths and avoiding the pitfalls of relationships and self growth, Stephan’s relationship advice and insight helps countless individuals achieve an authentically amazing life. Stephan empowers millions to take charge of the difficult situations standing in the way of the life and love they seek and to make impactful changes on a daily basis.

Dedicated to helping, and devoted to keeping it real, Stephan’s straightforward, yet compassionate delivery style, attracts a versatile clientele including; notable celebrities, civic and social organizations, academic institutions, singles, and couples alike, who can and are ready to handle the truth!

Seen, heard and chronicled in national and international media outlets including; the Tom Joyner Morning Show, The Examiner, ABC, GQ, and Huffington Post Live, to name a few. Stephan is highly sought-after because he is able to dispel the myths of relationship breakdowns and obstacles–platonic, romantic, and otherwise—with fervor and finesse. To coin a phrase by an individual who attended one of his speaking engagements, “he’s definitely the relationship guy, all relationships all the time.”

With an international following of singles and couples alike, the name Stephan Labossiere is synonymous with breaking down relationship barriers, pushing past common facades, and exposing the truth. It is this understanding of REAL relationships that he brings to everyone he encounters.

Professional Speaker and Certified Life & Relationship Coach

My message is simple, life and relationships require truth. The willingness to speak truth and the bravery to acknowledge it is paramount. I am available to help have the discussion.

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Stephan has been a true inspiration as a man of faith, a man of conviction and a man committed to strengthen relationships in our global community. I value his wisdom and I’m convinced his insight will help you achieve the results you are looking forward. Schedule your consultation or book him to speak at your next event. I guarantee his guidance will bless your soul and transform your relationships.

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To book Certified Life & Relationship Coach Stephan Labossiere for TV, radio interviews, speaking engagements & other media opportunities contact us by phone at (855) KEY-2LUV or by email booking@stephanspeaks.com.


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    • StephanLabossiere

      Yes I do. Email me at contact@StephanL.com and it will be reviewed by my editor.

  • Cparchman904

    been separated from husband for a few yrs, i filed for divorce but he wont sign….he has been abusive for so long, and I just want it over, he wil not leave me alone…

  • Teonia Jackson

    How do I let go of my estranged husband? I have been separated from him 2yrs and recently we saw each other and expressed how much we miss each other. I am confused and scared to complete my initial divorce petition. I cheated and he has trouble trusting me. I am done with the wandering. I was lonely and I cheated to feel what I wanted to feel with my husband. I miss the good parts of our relationship and I just dont know how to let go. It’s like admitting that we cannot solve a problem that we know the answers to. His father died and it hurt not to be there for him publicly because of the controversy of us not physically being united. But when we are alone, he shows me physical attention. It hurts and confuses me all the more. I feel counseling would help us get back on the right track but he refuses. Please help me make sense of this issue. I feel almost ready to finally sign the petition and get on with my life.

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  • RitaSaNikki

    I have been married for 7 years. We dated for two years before we married and we were the best of friends. Now that we have been married for some time, I am starting to feel that we were better as friends. My husband has many insecurities that effect every area of his that that in turn effect every area of my life. I am only 30 years old and I feel that I am not enjoying life. We have been through some really hard times. We separated for a short time last year and since that time I feel like I just want out, tired of fighting for what we have if he won’t. We spoke with some one to help us in our marriage and he said he understood all that was on my heart but nothing has changed. His words hold no weight. I feel nothing when he says things like “I love you” or “I am sorry”. I feel alone, trapped, unappreciated and unloved. The only reason I have not walked out is because of my faith in God and I don’t what to hurt my husband. He is a good person but I don’t think he is a good husband. What would be your advice?

    • Well the first thing that struck me was when you said you husband has many insecurities. Many times married couples seek counseling together but some issues need to first be addressed at the individual level. We all have things that could be better addressed and I encourage you to suggest individual counseling for the both of you first. This will better equip you two to come together and then truly see if this can be worked out. I know you feel like you don’t have the energy anymore and I completely understand. I just want to encourage you to exhaust all options before seriously considering walking away. Also you stated “he said he understood all that was on my heart but nothing has changed.” has he also expressed what weighs on his heart for you to understand. Are you both truly opening up and putting everything on the table? Many times we hold back but at this point of the relationship being completely open and honest is necessary. As long as it is expressed genuinely and in a positive manner then that will give progress a chance to occur.

  • MsSadly

    I need some help figuring out why I still care about someone. Look, I dated a guy for a year and then broke up with him after I found out he had cheated on me with a woman of the streets. I am hurt and confused, but he says that he loves me and that he wont do it again. A friend of mines told me that I should not be that upset because he did not have intercourse with her and that  atleast she was not a friend but someone unknown. It still hurts and I have been broken up with him for some months. I asked him why he did it and he could not tell me why. His mother told me that this is something that he has struggled with for a while. So my question to you is is it worth me caring about and sticking around to see if he will get it together? Or should I just run thinking that this man could bring me some disease home? Mind you we were supposed to get married but I broke it off. I am really sad. Also there is a good guy that is interested in me but I am afraid that I am not ready for him.

    • First thing I have to say is that you definitely are not ready for this other guy. You have to properly address the current issues before you entertain being with another man. Now I don’t know exactly what this man did to constitute cheating but I think you two need to talk again. Calmly and in a loving manner. The goal is to encourage honesty and openness in addressing the issues and understanding why the cheating occurred. It is not to attack each other or demonize anybody. He has certainly made a bad decision but many times this can all be worked out. Do not let fear stop you from trying to move this in a more positive direction. Whether you decide to get back with him or not, forgiveness will be necessary to allow you to let go of the negative feelings you are dealing with. If you need further assistance, please do not hesitate to email me advice@stephanspeaks.com

  • ConfusedReader

    So theres this guy that I use to date. Like all couples we had some huge obstacles that we overcame. Well we broke up. The break up was very random and I didn’t expect it. At first I was ma, but recently after almost a year I’ve came to my own conclusion on why he did it. We are both in college (not the same) and he plays baseball. I felt that the break up was because i was gibing him 100+ and he wasnt giving all that back to me. He’s a freshman in college and I understand that he wants to live without the worry of trying to hurt me. All that being said, when he comes home he always wants me to come over, always wants to chill and etc. His family LOVES me. His mother calls me everyday and we still hang out a lot. I didn’t find it awkward until recently because I feel like his mother puts us in a position where we HAVE to talk even though we don’t talk as much as we use to (if that makes sense). He tells his friends that he wants to be with me. And one night he drunk texted me pouring his heart out, but then told me “sorry i was drunk” the next morning. I really don’t know what to do because i feel like he is playing with my emotions. I love him no doubt about that and if we worked on it, i wouldn’t mind getting back with him. But i have too much pride to ask him “whats up” because im afraid of the response. BUt im ready to move on. I can’t keep wasting my time. I feel for me to be completely over him i need to stop talking to his mom and younger sister, but that would crush them. Even if i go a few days without calling she will call me and ask what she did and let me know hoe much she loves me.

    Sorry that this is all over the place

    • Well the most important thing you said was “i have too much pride to ask him “whats up” because im afraid of the response” and that is what this all boils down to. Even if you try to detach yourself it may be hard to stay detached because you aren’t properly addressing the issue. Pride and fear are paralyzing you and that isn’t helping anything right now. Communication is a key to any relationship and you are neglecting that at this moment. So I encourage you to find the strength to talk to him. Be open and honest so that you can gain the clarity you need. No more assumptions just go get some facts. After that you can decide how you want to handle this moving forward.

  • Soccergoalie13

    so I caught my boyfriend sexting other girls on his fb and phone. He claims to have never physically cheated with these other women and I confirmed this by talking to a few of them. This happened a few months ago and now I just feel confused and very paranoid. I am having trouble trusting him but wanting to because I believe in the relationship. 
    I just feel sometimes like I get pushed behind other things in his life and that I am not a priority. I am trying to figure out how to get him to notice me and realize that he should include me instead of pushing me away. 

    • Well you shouldn’t have to get your own boyfriend to notice you. I encourage you to sit down with him and express how you feel. Take a calm, positive, and loving approach to the conversation and be open to what he has to say and how he feels. You two have to come together and agree on how to handle things moving forward and what you both need from each other to make this work. There may be a void within him that he also isn’t propeprly addressing. So talk to him and see i you two can truly get on the same page and be what the other needs in a relationship.

  • lostsoul

    I in a relationship that has many up and down. We met in college and a year once we were both done we picked up and move West. The plan was for LA but we got stuck at his family house cause it was hard finding a job. 7months later were still here. I went baat is where I’m from and started to realize I missed it, also there was more opportunities on the east coast because the job market us not as bad. While at hone he accused me of being to worry about my career and how I didn’t try hard enough out here on the west coast. I’m 26 and feel like I don’t have a foundation for myself with no support from him. When I try to bring up the future he tells me I’m not doing enough out here and if I leave or go somewhere else then most likely we will not be together. I feel like he trying to trap me here. I love him but I also want to live life and have a career with out struggling if that other place I have an opportunity in.please help me. I don’t know what to do

    • Well it seems that both of you are fighting for what you believe is best but haven’t tried to find a middle ground on this (if possible). Compromise is important in a relationship and if you two talk a calm and positive approach then you may be able to find a resolution that both of you can be happy with. So try to talk to him again but do it in a loving manner and open your mind to ways to compromise with him on this issue.

  • diamond

    I looked through my boyfriend phone and i seen other females calling him baby in etc… what should i do?

    • Well if you don’t say anything this will continue to bother you and start to create more issues in the relationship. If you choose to say something just be prepared for him trying to make the issue about you going through his phone. Ultimately I’m always for honesty and addressing issues. So I would say talk to him and approach this in a calm manner.

    • Diane M Lancellotta

      I would get rid of him because any man that has other women calling him baby is cheating on you. Would you call a man who is a friend baby?? I don’t think so

  • PhDPindrop

    Who are you certified by?  I’ve heard of certified life coaches but never relationship experts.  What qualifications and training does one have to have to be certified in relationships?

    • The certification is in reference to the coaching not the “expert” part. I’ve been coaching for over 5yrs. I offer coaching in for more than just relationships but that is my main focus.

      • PhDPindrop

         Gotcha, looks a little funny to my eye but thanks for replying.

        • : ) You’re welcome and trust me I have been asked this same question before so I understand lol.

          • Alexandra Wong

            I have seen that they are a few good reviews of your services and definitely is something to take in consideration, but I still wonder what institution provides this type of certification…? is it a college certification? hope to see a reply since the most recent comments dont have any…

          • Hey Alexandra. There are various programs right now that offer certification. Colleges at the moment and to my knowledge don’t offer any programs to get certified as a coach. There are to many to list but you can get an overview here https://www.coachfederation.org/

          • Diane M Lancellotta

            you are certified by the Holy Spirit 🙂

  • MissTrina

    Why do people think Alpha females are whores? But the Alpha male can have many lovers as he wants?

    • Well it is the double standard we deal with. Many view women as having a higher responsibility to not explore sexually. They feel the woman holds the power in sex and therefore she should do a better job of not giving her body so freely. Also many men do not want to end up with a woman who has been with “to many guys”. So they will look down on and lash out at women that choose to behave in this manner.

      • peter

        I don’t think that there is a double standard. The two sexes are treated differently because there are biological differences between the two and promiscuity means something different with each sex. I disagree that girls are treated “unfairly” because of their promiscuity.

    • Diane M Lancellotta

      I think both men and women should respect themselves and their bodies and not have multiple lovers.

  • Mollz

    need advice! Ex boyfriend i dated for 5 months back in 2011 has come back to me 3 times but we never got back together. A year later so now, 2013 i hear from him again, was not expecting to hear from him because we both agreed to go our separate ways. He has dated other people since me so if he was looking for a hookup he could probably find someone besides me. I agreed to meet up and just catch up. Things have been going good, were a little more mature now i am 21 and he’s 23 now.  We have been taking things slow for the past 2 months to see how things would go. I asked him recently what exactly he is wanting, he said “he doesn’t want to rush into a relationship to fast and wants to see where it goes with us”. He says he isn’t seeing other people. He works a lot and every weekend drives an 1.5 hour to come see me for the weekend. I just don’t understand why he doesn’t want a relationship even tho we are doing stuff that people do in relationships. He knows i am not a fling type of girl, I want a relationship sometime soon. I don’t understand why he always comes back to me. I just find i am going to start getting more attached to him again the more time i put into this and see him.
    Thanks for your time reading this!

  • Allise Mine

    I’m over listening to him speak and never wanting to hear me. What’s the point of me being around? Really?

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  • Erica M.

    I’m 29 now, just had a Birthday on July 24th..I’m currently not dating, seem like this season men with alot of kids has been attractive to me..I don’t really want a man with three or four kids…I already have two. I don’t really go out anymore unless I’m taking my kids somewhere. I want a friend, Boyfriend and a husband in my Life.. What can I change up for myself, while I wait for my Boaz?

  • Nykesha White

    Mr. Labossiere, I have recently discovered your blog, bought two of your books and an audio file. I am a professional counselor and I have learned so much from your teaching and you have also confirmed things that I have been teaching for years. I only wish I would have had such sound relationship teaching earlier in my life. Thank you for your ministry. When the principals are applied it is life changing. Be blessed!

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  • David

    Should I ask a woman about her sexual history?

    • Diane M Lancellotta

      No what does that have to do with your relationship with her and the past is the past and under the blood of Jesus just like your sexual history is.

      • Jennifer

        Hi there Diane , i hope all is well . It’s this type of snap back to a question that someone has ( we don’t even know if he knows Jesus or not ) that doesn’t make us look different from the world. He was asking a question and although that it might be offensive and maybe he doesn’t know how to ask a different way , we can encourage him to do it better by being the very example . We don’t know where he’s coming from or what his past is like and maybe this a concern for him of some sorts , so maybe you should ask him where he’s coming from not what the question has to do with anything, for example; Hey David hope all is well , what do you mean by that statement ? And go from there we don’t attack we investigate and discern . We christians really need to practice more self control with our emotions . Remember who we are representing and remember everyone else including people who don’t know Jesus is reading the thread and how it can make Jesus look. Stay blessed .

  • Carol Gordon

    I just received your book God Where Is My Boaz? Normally I research an author before I purchase but the title of this book really grab my attention, especially on the cover where it states “A Woman’s guide to understanding what’s hindering HER from receiving the love and man she deserves.” As always I will read with an OPEN MIND to gain further insight about myself, let you know what I found out tomorrow when I’m done reading.

    • Diane M Lancellotta

      you will love it! I just finished it in two days! I couldn’t put the book down! Hope you get blesses as much as I did!

  • Sadie Giraffe

    Hi Stephan! First, I want to tell you how remarkable of a person you are.
    I am recently going through a divorce and I feel like I will never find “the one.” I am very picky when it comes to men. I am especially picky on looks. Is this normal? How can I get past this? Where do people meet these days?

    Thank you