I agree that love is the key to being the change we want to see. However, the fact remains that its up to each individual to make that change. In your example, that woman could continue to blindly self destruct, relationship wise, if she fails to address her own internal healing. So, while that man is moving forward and being the "adult in the relationship." she goes forth either not noticing, not acknowledging or not reciprocating it.

Let's talk motivation. If the whole reason that man is pouring out love has the ulterior motive of manipulating the woman into being what he wants, he may, eventually, get worn out with the whole thing.

I think we are basically saying the same thing. However, the truth remains that each individual has a responsibility to self-awareness and honest self-evaluation that no other person can do for them. You can;t control anyone but yourself, and that only with Gods help and by His grace. If the change is going to come, it is only sustainable from the inside healing it takes to flip the script on the past that covertly influences our perspective and behaviors.

I just posted a blog that addresses this. You might want to take a look at it.

Thanks for a lively discussion and thought provoking ideas! I'm sure I will see you on the publicity circuit as I have a Literary Agent and the book is in editing as we speak.

Linda F. Williams
LINDA F. WILLIAMS, BAOL, MSW
Founder and Chief Operating Officer
Whose Apple Empowerment Center