Comments on: When Life Gets In The Way https://www.stephanspeaks.com/life/ Helping men and women experience happier, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships. Tue, 20 Oct 2020 15:37:05 +0000 hourly 1 By: Terria Wright https://www.stephanspeaks.com/life/#comment-3683 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 06:44:00 +0000 https://www.stephanspeaks.com/?p=1518#comment-3683 In reply to Terria Wright.

This is a beautiful story! I sincerely hope they get back together. It’s powerful when a man finds true love. No other woman should follow after this love! It’s awesome!

]]> By: Terria Wright https://www.stephanspeaks.com/life/#comment-3682 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 06:31:00 +0000 https://www.stephanspeaks.com/?p=1518#comment-3682 I really appreciate and respect this story. It’s a prime example of how authentic love should flow. Nothing and no one can ever compete with true love. I sincerely admire stories like this. And even though I am single, I will never give up on the possibilities of real love discovering me. My aim and focus at this time is to put everything aside that hinders my relationship with the One Who has allowed me to be on this earth in the first place. I am healed from years of isolation and false accusations, and now it’s time to press forward with a mind to live and enjoy life moment by moment to the fullest. I appreciate this article written by a man who knows what he wants. I respect men who chase the one he truly loves.

]]> By: Terria Wright https://www.stephanspeaks.com/life/#comment-3681 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 06:28:48 +0000 https://www.stephanspeaks.com/?p=1518#comment-3681 I really appreciate and respect this story. It's a prime example of how authentic love should flow. Nothing and no one could ever compete with true love. I sincerely admire stories like this. And even though I am single, I will never give up on the possibilities of real love discovering me. My aim and focus at this time is to put everything aside that hinders my relationship with the One Who has allowed me to be on this earth in the first place. I am healed from years of isolation and false accusations, and now it's time to press forward with a mind to live and enjoy life moment by moment to the fullest. I appreciate this article written by a man who knows what he wants. I respect men who chase the one he truly loves.

]]> By: Pooblyshus39@gmail.com https://www.stephanspeaks.com/life/#comment-3506 Thu, 23 May 2013 14:47:00 +0000 https://www.stephanspeaks.com/?p=1518#comment-3506 In reply to Mosesjustmoses.

I completely understand. My situation is the same, but it’s me that has the health issues.. Why would you keep someone you love from a happy life you know they can have, for your own selfish reasons.. I want my husband to be happy. Not sit here and watch me suffer for many years, then die..(Not that I am). But what type of life is that for him? I want to see him happy. Call me crazy, because Love is crazy, in your eyes.. Jesus knew we carried sin all day long, but yet he died for us because he loves us all day long.. I’m not saying that we are suppose to be gods. I’m saying we are suppose to be Christlike (imitators). And that is one of the things God will test you on. Sacrifice!! Making a decision like this is never easy and you cant just wake up one day and say “I love my husband so much to sacrifice my happiness for his happiness..” This decision took some painful years to make. The funny thing is the more I said I want to keep him the sicker I became, but the more I lean to make that decision to let go, the better my health became. So when I went to get the divorce papers my vision came back. Not like it was, but I thank God I can see again.. My cousin said it’s all in my head. Why would God want you to get a divorce when he’d rather for you to marry than to burn. In my heart I know that God’s ways are not our ways. I have known God since I was 6years old and Im still learning, even at the age of 41. All I know is that I want my husband to be happy and I want to be as healthy as I can be and continue to praise my father when I wake up every morning and through out the days I live.

]]> By: DJCDoll https://www.stephanspeaks.com/life/#comment-3402 Wed, 17 Apr 2013 05:29:00 +0000 https://www.stephanspeaks.com/?p=1518#comment-3402 In reply to GodlessFulaniYiraX.

Lmaooooooo I’m literally laughin at this response now…. I dont get it either!

]]> By: GodlessFulaniYiraX https://www.stephanspeaks.com/life/#comment-3319 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 19:10:00 +0000 https://www.stephanspeaks.com/?p=1518#comment-3319 I’m sorry…I don’t get it.

]]> By: Lorenzo Whitehead https://www.stephanspeaks.com/life/#comment-1821 Fri, 02 Nov 2012 16:18:00 +0000 https://www.stephanspeaks.com/?p=1518#comment-1821 I am in a very similar situation. But we met online on a site I won’t name for privacy (no it’s not an adult freaky place) lol. We both write poetry blogs there and I write short stories we call each page by a Part #. Anyway she wrote a collab piece with someone supposed to be mutual friends. She new him from the first time she got on the site way before I got there in ’08. I never knew of any history or what not. I was on his page reading blogs and came across the collab with her and i can’t really explain it but when a poet/ess writes from the heart even just in general, you feel the words! Every word connected with the way I think, where for years I’ve felt so misunderstood because the way I express myself. I knew right then I found my soulmate, no second guessing, no fairy tales or fantasies. I FELL COMPLETELY IN LOVE FROM WORDS EXPRESS FROM ANOTHER HEART. I had nothing else to go on and when I heard her not too heavy accent I fell again and again from little things I learn as we go! At the time I had no clue what race, age, nor if she was pretty or not so much for my tastes because she had a lot of haters (ex bf’s and the women they flirted with online and the other men she denied access to her heart). Her age said 91yrs lol her profile and her photos all were at friends only setting and she had the mailbox and IM closed to all but friends too. So I told the guy to make sure he get in touch with her, tell her i loved the poem and really wanted to talk to her. He said “Ok” but but didnt for a long time so asked again. Finally he mentions me “oh you know he likes you”. She said, “Oh really? Tell him to send me a friend request”. She had to open access for me. But he wouldn’t tell me! Come to find out that He was married trying to talk to her too, with no intentions of divorcing, so she basically turned him down for me, sum1 free and clear because “I hate drama” as she told me later.All this came out days later. This was Sept.4, 2010 we first talked AND COMMITTED to each other the same day. 2 days later I proposed and she said yes because she was just as sure i was her soulmate after reading my words also. It’s not just what we say but how we say it! Ok all online relationships are risky, right? This one was packed full of them! 1. long distance, she’s in Toronto, Canada and Im in Georgia, USA. Also he health was fading in major areas. She survived breast cancer age 18/19. it returned! She has very bad asthma, coronary heart disease, which her father died from. mother died in a car wreck; she’s a diabetic, have breast cancer as I mentioned AND was suffering from migraines a very long time which turns out to be a cancerous brain tumor! Now I’ll reveal age, She’s Asian and was 28yrs at the time to my 40yrs, a 12 year difference. Yes I’ve dealt with the thoughts of hey, I have younger siblings and nieces and nephews round her age of 30yrs now. But I can’t find 1 reason to walk away from the soul mate of all soulmates in my 42yrs living. Ive had plenty relationships starting at a late blooming 20yrs old but in the 5th grade I told my mother that I either dreamed or saw a vision of my wife, but I never could see her face but she was very beautiful and long black hair down to her waist. Mom remembers to this day. But one day I get a text from my precious gift from God from her Aunt while hannah was in the hospital in another of many comas from a very weak heart and the asthma combined. She asked, “Did _____ (her name) ever tell you she used to have an imaginary friend named Lorenzo? I was like Wow! She said ____ also later was bought a big teddy bear that she named Lorenzo as well and one day with her g-ma she lost her bear leaving it while traveling and it just broke her heart but she had told them her husbands name would be Lorenzo! And when I revealed to her my story she was in awe. She said she has never seen her this happy with no one else. My Queen has suffered many losses of family, n relationships. The worst was she was engaged to be married and walked in on her fiance and bestfriend having sex 2 days before the wedding. She also had mostly extremely jealous types and controlling men so she was warm and open to talking to me but yet had plenty trust issues and she had been drug by her hair across a floor and punched like a man in her face before so she was also withdrawn. These 2 years were rough in the beginning having to literally prove everything over and over to rebuild trust but we did it together and it’s like having the most beautiful and colorful caterpillar change into a 10 times more gorgeous butterfly radiant from within! She used to model part time and was a nurse full time working with dementia patients. She gave up modeling to love and care for her best friend’s now 7yr old daughter and 10yr old son which ____ adopted after her bestfriend lost her life in a car accident. _____ also lost one of if not the favorite uncle who was taking care of her back and forth with the chemo and lack of oxygen that kept her in the hospital more than at her home these past 2 years. Me? I lost apartment, I lost the suv from trying to save the apartment, bought a bicycle the first check i could and rode it 30mins to 40mins uphill the majority of the way to work at the mall then  the same home every day till i got fired for tardiness, not poor performance! The Gas guzzler church van i was using to do lawncare just went back to sum1 so he could get to work because he’s paying the insurance and were riding my bro’s wife’s sons car,…because of so much gas loss so again i’m down to zero job or money BUT I HAVE THE GREATEST LOVE IN THE WORLD, AND FOR MY CASE THERE’S NO “MERCY DEPARTURE” FOR US. I’ve told her already even if she get both breasts removed, no matter the heart surgeries the asthma, the many comas, the diabetes the brain tumor, the fat that i waited all my life to have a wife n kids of my own but her heart may never be strong enough to bare kids and though I have no money to travel to Canada to see her so it’s possible cancer take her away from me before we even meet. THRU ALL OF THAT, SHE IS WORTH HANGING ONTO TILL DEATH DO WE PART WHICH WE BOTH ARE COMMITTED TO. I shared my story because love isnt what you make it,…LOVE IS WHAT IT IS! BUT RELATIONSHIPS ARE WHATEVER YOU MAKE THEM OUT TO BE. FAITH PLAYS A HUGE PART. I DONT BELIEVE GOD IS PLAYING A TRICK ON ME BY GIVING HER TO ME THEN TAKE HER AWAY BEFORE WE CAN GET MARRIED. I ALSO BELIEVE AND HAVE FAITH THAT WE HAVE NO SAY SO IF OUR HEALTH WILL GIVE OUT OR HANG ON SO SHE AND I REFUSE TO GO OUR JOURNEYS APART. SO THRU ALL THE HATE WE GOT FROM BOTH BLACK N WHITE SAYING WE NEED TO STICK WITH OUR OWN KIND AND SUCH AND ME BEING CALLED OLD AND UGLY BY HER EX AND SAYING SHE COULDNT FIND A YOUNG THING LIKE HIM (JUST HATEFUL THINGS) WE ARE STILL HAPPILY IN LOVE REGARDLESS IF WE NEVER KISS MEET OR HAVE SEX. THERE ARE DIFFERENT LEVELS OF LOVE. MAYBE THIS BROTHER FOUND A-1 NOT D-1 (THE ONE) ,….YET. BECAUSE TRUST ME IF GOD IS ORCHESTRATING THE UNION YOU TWO MIGHT AS WELL SIT BACK AND ENJOY THE BEST FEELING IN THE WORLD AND STAY OUT OF GOD’S WAY 😉 JUST THINK ABOUT IT. IF THE AGE REALLY AND ISSUE THAT YOU CANT OVERCOME THEN WAIT AND KEEP IT LIKE YALL HAVE IT.  FELT LIKE ONE TO ME TILL I KNEW. MY SITUATION DIFFERENT BUT ALSO HAS ALOT TO THINK OF BUT WHO ARE YOU TO KNOW GOD’S POSSIBILITIES IN THEIR ENTIRETY? AS SOON AS YOU THINK YOU THINK THERE IS NO WAY THIS OR THAT CAN WORK,…GOD CAN MAKE A WAY. OPEN DOORS AND YOUR LIFE RISE TO A MUCH HIGHER LEVEL. ALL THINGS NONE IMPORTANT TO HIM, HE HAS ALLOWED IT TO BE TAKENED AWAY SO I CAN SEE LOVE AT IT’S PUREST FORM. I’M LIKE JOB, THE LORD GIVETH AND THE LORD TAKETH AWAY, SO BLESSED BE THE NAME OF THE LORD! JESUS HAS ALL POWER ON EARTH AND IN HEAVEN,…MY BELIEF,FREE COUNTRY TO BELIEVE DIFFERENTLY OR DONT BELIEVE AT ALL. IM JUST SHARING . 🙂 IF YOU PRAY 1 TIME FOR THINGS, THEN JUST LOOK FOR THEM AND KEEP MOVING FORWARD, YOU HOLD GOD TO HIS WORD THAT HE WILL NEVER FORSAKEN YOU. AND BE LIKE JOB, NO MATTER IF THE NEWS OF YOUR HEALTH IS SAID TO BE TERMINAL. MY QUEEN WAS TOLD SHE HAD ABOUT 2MOS TO LIVE WAY BACK THANKSGIVING WEEK OF OR NEAR CHRISTMAS AFTER HER 2ND HEART SURGERY. SHE STILL FIGHTS FOR LOVE. SHE REFUSES TO GET A HEART TRANSPLANT THAT THEY SAID SHE NEEDS ASAP BECAUSE SHE SAYS THERE’S NO WAY SHE’S GETTING RID OF THE HEART THAT LOVE ME AND THE KIDS SO MUCH AND SHE’D RATHER DIE SUFFERING PAIN THAN DO THAT. I SAY ASK YOUR FRIEND THE SAME AFTER SUM TIME HAS PAST BUT IF YOU WAIT TILL SHE MARRY OR GET INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP,…WOMEN MANY TIMES WILL DO OUT OF OBLIGATION NOT LOVE IN SUM SITUATIONS. I’D HAVE A SIT DOWN WITH HER, DON’T INTERJECT WHAT YOU THINK SHE WANT OR NEED TO SAY. JUST LET HER EXPRESS HERSELF THEN TAKE IT FROM THERE. SHOOT LET HER READ THIS MAYBE IT’LL HELP HER UNDERSTAND WHAT SHE CAN OR CAN’T HANDLE BETTER.

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