Comments on: He Didn’t Love Me, He Wanted To Control Me – Real Stories

By: LC

LC — Tue, 02 Jun 2020 06:09:09 +0000

In reply to M Starrparman. You'll keep going in circles. Until you Let me help you Heal. Dark Ocean.

By: Jennifer Davis

Jennifer Davis — Tue, 02 Dec 2014 20:41:19 +0000

Thanks so much for this! This story was so similar to mine. I was married to a controlling man for 15 yrs. I finally had enough 3yrs ago and divorced him.

By: Mignonwilliams Williams

Mignonwilliams Williams — Tue, 02 Dec 2014 12:40:32 +0000

its really difficult to see what is wrong in a relationship when u are in but as soon as you get out u will see how terrifying it was thank u for sharing your story

By: Ann Haney

Ann Haney — Tue, 02 Dec 2014 06:01:00 +0000

This is one of the most devastating things that happens to a woman. It is gradual in its control, but the hardest part is what it gradually does to your self worth as a woman. I wrote my story of this journey from codependency and how to identify your real enemy, Satan who desires to destroy your value, & change your life from bitter to better. We as women are not perfect but we should never be made to feel worthless. My book is “Single Steps In A Married World-Stepping Out Of The Shadows of Codependency, Complacency & Insecurity”
All people have purpose and God intends for each to walk happily in it. I speak on this topic nationally and desire to see women overcome and obtain the value God sees in them.

By: Michelle Chester

Michelle Chester — Mon, 18 Aug 2014 05:19:47 +0000

This helped tremendously. How do I deal with the feelings of guilt associated with divorce v for reasons other than those listed in the bible. My Christian peers charge me with a lack of faith, so I feel stuck for fear of offending God.

By: Evelyne Vivo

Evelyne Vivo — Fri, 20 Jun 2014 16:25:20 +0000

I used to be a very insecure person and when I met my ex partner, he was not controlling, before we became a couple, he was the sweetest man one can imagine and I felt in love as he was making me feel secure and loved. After we started the relationship however he was always comparing me with his deceased wife, buying me the same things he used to buy for her and making me feel so inferior to her. His sisters and his daughter even though I never hurt them in any way, never wanted me in his life either and were making my life a living hell. His daughter even told me once, I am daddy's princess and nobody comes between my daddy and me (she was 20 then). We had been together for 2 years but he never took me to meet his mom as he said his mom was not interested in meeting me and that the relationship is about the 2 of us. I was crying a lot, the first place a guy takes you is to meet his mom, but he kept telling me that he could not force his mom to meet me, but nevertheless I hold on to the relationship as I was scared to be alone. When we had problems, he was always putting the blame on me and as the whole world was telling me that I should consider myself lucky for having a man like him, because he was in 2 church choirs, treasurer of a kindergarten, at his job he was an excellent colleague, I really believed that I was the one to be blamed for our problems as the whole world was seeing him as a saint, then I was the one who should do my best for this relationship and that I should change myself for him. I was becoming more insecure each day and was doing everything to please him. Nobody could even suspect that the fellow who is such a great guy everywhere, how dominant he can be in a relationship and that he always had to be the one who was right. I broke up with him 3 months ago, as he had somebody else and I learned that he had her for 12 years, together with his deceased wife and she is living in an apartment in his mom's garden, that is the reason he never could have taken me to his mom and nobody knew about her (only his mom and his family) and still don't know, as he just say I am going to visit my mom. This is also the reason his mom never liked me, as she thought that he would marry her after his wife's death. I don't know why he asked me to start a relationship as he already had her for so many years. It is still hard for me to cope with this, but I am trying to find some peace in my heart by putting my trust in the Lord. So ladies please look out for those sweet talkers too when you first meet them and after you start a relationship they result to be something completely different, but to the rest of the world I am the bad girl as he is a saint. It still hurts, but I am glad I took the decision to leave and God knows my heart and he will help me find myself back and find the peace I need. Ladies don't settle for less, we are worth so much, it is a pity I realized this a little too late, but I trust the Lord will mend my heart and that I will trust again.

By: Ana McCloud

Ana McCloud — Fri, 20 Jun 2014 06:57:34 +0000

I really need to hear this also