When a person finds out they have been cheated on it is not a good feeling. Betrayal and disappointment hit hard and some never truly recover from it. It is a very negative experience and sometimes the cheater will make decisions that actually adds to what was already a knockout blow. Some may say it makes no difference but I believe these seven things will feel like you’re being kicked when you have already been knocked down.
Guest Post by Natalie Vartanian
Do you want to know the quickest way to have a more loving, healthy, mature, respectful relationship? Remember (and repeat) the following statement: “It is not about me!” In other words don’t take things personally. Once you get this one small but powerful realization you can apply it to any challenging or stressful situation and you will be a much calmer, happier individual in general.
You know it’s hard out here for a pimp. It’s even harder for those trying to avoid getting pimped. As much attention as men get for the games many play we forget something that’s very true. Many women are the masters of the “game” and have been running circles around men since the beginning of time. Men don’t tend to be as intuitive as women so they can’t even see the pimp hand coming before it’s too late. So here are some signs to consider when trying to avoid falling victim to a female player:
“Why won’t he just tell me how he feels?” “Why is it so hard to get him to open up?” “Does he have a genuine issue or is he just plain old stupid?” These are all questions I have received from frustrated women dealing with men who can’t seem to express themselves. They feel like they are speaking to a brick wall and nothing seems to be getting through. This void of effective communication opens the door for a lack of trust, emotional neglect, confusion, and an overall unhealthy relationship. So what is really the problem?
Time and time again I have seen this scenario pop up. Girl meets boy, girl has sex with boy, girl and boy don’t work out, girl likes his friend, and then girl has sex with friend hoping for a relationship to come. Believe it or not it happens a lot. What always surprises me is the girls belief that the second guy will actually take her serious. She will buy into the belief that they are getting to know each other and how he is actually interested in being with her long-term. She will invest time and energy into this man expecting that he will continue to do the same. She sees a future with him but she seems to have forgotten one important thing…
Despite what my title states I don’t actually believe women move on faster than men from heartbreak. I know many would disagree with that and I understand why they feel that way. You always see situations where the man just won’t let go. It could be years since the breakup and that man is still trying to get her back and make something happen. Of course we see women struggle too but on the surface they seem to reach a point where they have moved on a lot quicker.