Ok so let’s set the scene. You have a guy out with some of his boys. It could be a club, the mall, or anywhere else you can think of. He sees a beautiful woman with a couple of her friends and he decides he wants to make a move. So he approaches her and says “excuse me miss, you caught my eye and I think you look real good. I was hoping we could talk and get to know each other”. She then says “I’m sorry but I’m not interested” and tries to continue walking away. He looks at her…pauses…then says “SCREW YOU B**CH!!…you old smelly vagina having…real housewives, bad girls club, jersey shore reject looking…think your too damn good and that’s why your ass is lonely now…B**CH!!”
Whoa Whoa Whoa! This guy has never even seen this woman’s vagina much less smelled it. Yet he still feels compelled to verbally attack her with false accusations and endless insults. He insists on completely disrespecting her and why? All because his ego has been hurt. Now men I know that nobody likes rejection. I also understand that sometimes the woman may respond with a negative and unnecessary attitude. Despite all of that we still have to do better. Resorting to this kind of negative behavior is uncalled for and it just needs to stop. The reality we all have to face is that not every woman is going to like us…and guess what? We won’t like all of them either so we’re even. It’s as simple as that. You try, you failed, and you live to see another day. It serves you no good to unleash all that negativity on her and honestly it makes you seem a little “b**ch-like”. We are men and we need to learn to brush it off and not internalize a situation like this. Also we have to take a moment to understand the woman in many of these situations. Chances are she actually is attractive (if she wasn’t then you likely would not have tried to talk to her) and with that said she probably gets hit on all the time. Could you imagine having to deal with person after person trying to talk to you. People who aren’t even genuine about getting to know you but are just trying to get some booty? Ok many of you would love that last part but you know very well what I’m getting at. Not to mention the example I gave above was a nice approach. Some of you out there come with a disrespectful and rude approach to begin with. What do you really expect to happen? Just because it worked on that chick with lower standards does not mean you should allow yourself to believe every other woman should be ok with it. So add that all up and throw in the fact that maybe she’s having a bad day, just not feeling well, etc. Chances are you wouldn’t be as receptive to another person approaching you either. So if she isn’t interested then so be it. There are plenty of other women to choose from and no need to stress over that one woman or two or ten who rejected you that day. It’s a numbers game my friend and you will eventually get what you are looking for.
I only gave an example of the first approach but no matter the situation the principle remains the same. We don’t need to view that woman in a negative manner simply because she isn’t interested. If she was rude with how she handled it well I understand the urge to fire back but it’s just not worth it. We have to start moving in a better direction with our lives. Engaging in unnecessary negative behavior is what we should all avoid. Just view it as that woman’s loss is the next woman’s gain. Nobody should have that much power to get you to stoop to that level. Especially for something as reasonable as simply not being interested.