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4 Signs You’re Not Ready For The True Love You Desire

Everybody enjoys being loved, but many struggle to embrace it as they should. Some will claim with their words how they desire true love, but their actions say something completely different.  You may be one of those people, and up to this point, you may not have accepted that fact. You are certainly not alone in your struggle, and now it’s time to gain some clarity on this possible issue. So continue to read, and be prepared to do some self reflection. Here are four signs you aren’t ready yet for true love.

You’re Not Willing To Put In The Necessary Effort

Every great achievement requires great effort. Unfortunately due to emotional fatigue, pessimism, pride, and sometimes bitterness; you’re no longer doing your part to get what you want to get. You’re tired of trying, because it seems like it’s getting you nowhere.  This can lead some of you to point the finger at anyone or anything else to explain why you haven’t found true love. However, you have to be willing to look at yourself in the mirror if you truly want to understand what needs to change to get better results. Expecting things to fall into place on their own isn’t going to get you far. Being mindful of your self growth, and how to truly open up yourself to the love you want will provide you with a much better path to achieving your goal. A lack of effort will not lead to an abundance of love.

You Run From The Best

When you’re not ready for true love, dating is much easier when it consists of people who you couldn’t truly see yourself with long term. They may be great to have fun with, and help you get your mind off of things. Yet they don’t possess that extra “something” that would make you want to go the distance with them.  A person who makes you feel like you never have, will likely have you running for your life. This person is a real threat to forcing you out of your comfort zone. They make you feel vulnerable, and for you that is down-right scary. You react this way probably because of the next sign.

You Haven’t Healed From The Past

Many of us are walking around holding on to the hurt and pain that we experienced in the past. You may not realize it, but it is having a huge impact on your ability to give and receive love in the present. Moving past the issue does not necessarily mean you have properly addressed and resolved the issue within yourself. Because of this, you will consciously or subconsciously do all that you can to prevent yourself from being vulnerable and experiencing that hurt again. There is a great quote in the best-selling book God Where Is My Boaz that states “the same walls that you have up to protect you, are the same walls that are blocking your blessings.” Healing is necessary, and without it, you aren’t going to be ready or able to handle all the things that true love presents and provides.

You’re Controlling

The constant need to have control in relationships isn’t born out of love, it’s born out of fear. It goes hand in hand with the fact that healing is lacking, and that you will not be willing to embrace a person who you don’t feel in control with emotionally. True love is an extremely vulnerable experience, and control pretty much flies out the window in its presence. Which is why you, and many others may fly away as well, and keep your distance from the person that is truly best for you. If you can’t deal with not being in control, I can assure you that you will struggle with true love. It is essential to bring the guard of control down if you truly want to experience the joy of true love. It isn’t easy, but you can do it, and you will be better off in the long run because of it.

Chances are if one of these apply to you, then they all will apply to you to some extent. You may have overlooked these issues, or deemed them as irrelevant, but it’s time for a change. You deserve all the great things that life and love have to offer. Don’t allow lingering negative energy to block you from the positive path you need to be on. A path filled with growth, triumph, and most certainly true love.

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  • Pisces

    WOW! This arti is exactly what I needed because it truly pertains to me I may need some love counseling sometimes I think I’m ready and when I start dating I get hesitant to move to closer to that person and I HONESTLY don’t know why 🙁

  • Andrea

    I agree, but I also know a few too many who fit this description and are MARRIED! LMBO!

  • serenity3

    I have a question, recently I have had several single friends that have been going through hard times (death mostly) and they always say that they wish that they had a man through this tough times to support them. I am single as well but when those thoughts come into my head, I try to just focus on God for my strength instead of wishing that I had a man.So my question is, how do I be supportive to my friend and show empathy during this time? Also I want to get your perspective of why is it when we go through the tough times like deaths of loved ones that the first thing that we reflect on is that we are single and wishing we had someone?

    Thank you!

  • Bloofs

    Presumably it’s also reasonable to say to yourselves yes I’m not ready for love I’ll just stay single long term then. I accept that.