What Men Want When Dating
No this sign above is not a porn ad, nor is it a promotion for a male enhancement drug. This is the answer to the question I was recently asked to write about; “What do men want?” I’m actually a bit surprised this is still being questioned. Have not the years, decades…scratch that. Since the beginning of time has it not been obvious that men are driven by their desire of having a lot of sex? Seriously, we could say that men want power, respect, and success but that’s simply to allow them to get and have more sex : ). I’m not saying this is a good thing, or the way it should be, but it is what it is. So why are so many women still puzzled by what men want? Why aren’t many women putting this into proper perspective? Well, let’s see if I can answer those questions and help bring some clarity to those of you that have not figured it out yet. Side Note: though sex is important to a lot of men during any relationship phase, we will discuss this more within the frame of dating. Husbands value sex too, but men want and need more than that for a long-term commitment like marriage.
8 out of 10 men you meet just wants to get that ass!!
I really want to say 9 out of 10, but I haven’t done any official surveys so I’m going to take the conservative route : ). This is what I mean by putting this whole what men want (sex) issue into perspective. At what point will many of you women understand that you should not be shocked or appalled when a man just wants you for some sex? This should be expected, and therefore allow you to understand that if you’re not on that same page you need to take the necessary precautions. Understand that there will be some that start off just wanting sex, and your personality may actually make them want you for more, but that is the exception not the rule. Most men will play the game of wanting more from you, but at the end of the day sex is what’s on his mind and in his agenda; not your feelings, your desires, or your great personality. Most men you meet aren’t truly best for you, so most men you meet will not want the same things you want This brings me to the next point.
Lying to yourself about what men want won’t change the facts.
It’s as if so many women would rather convince themselves that the men they meet are actually about more than getting a piece of ass, then accepting the signs and facts before them that say otherwise. Then after they get burned from the situation, they completely put all the blame on the men (it makes them feel better about their bad decision) rather than be accountable for the blatant overlooking of what was slapping them in their face. I know some men play the game very well, but many aren’t typically that smart (sorry guys) to have really fooled you. Women are very smart (intuition) but unfortunately they outsmart themselves. So as a woman, you need to improve your screening process if you know you are trying to avoid a relationship built on sex. Also, women like companionship and having someone around. Therefore many have no issue using men as their personal mental / companion whore (friends with no benefits). Be honest with yourself and that man if you’re OK with having that sexual relationship in exchange for satisfying that need. Just understand what you may be setting yourself up for. Don’t turn around months or years later convincing yourself and claiming you’re in love when it was never about that, and has never truly become that. I don’t care how much time you put in, learn to walk away from a bad investment.
With all that said, I acknowledge that not ALL men are like this. Please just stop acting like this isn’t the case the majority of the time. Men LOVE sex, this is what men want, and this truth should be accepted once and for all. Even when it isn’t all that men want, it is still high on the list if not #1 for many. Married, single, it makes no difference. More women would be just as enamored with sex if they actually reached climax as often as men do (and if they can get out of their own way from reaching orgasm…we shall discuss that later). As for those of you who have accepted this, and have even done very well in the art of pleasing a man sexually, but wonder “if it’s that important, why isn’t it enough to keep him?” Well, that will have to be answered when I release my next book : ). If what men want as mentioned in this article isn’t what you truly desire right now, then don’t settle for less. Stay focused on what you need to do, and there will come a man who wants the same things as you.
is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, Speaker, and Author of the #1 Best Seller "God Where Is My Boaz" as well as the Award Winning book "How To Get A Woman To Have Sex With You...If You're Her Husband". Stephan is on a mission to help men and women experience happier, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships. He is a highly sought after coach and speaker who has been seen, heard and chronicled in various national and international media outlets. soulmate