We can give people plenty of tips and tricks on how to attract the opposite sex. Many are always looking for great ways to pull it off but in that process they overlook some very important things. Most truly desire a successful relationship but a good foundation has to be in place in order for that to happen. I’m not talking success as in just staying together because plenty of people remain in unhealthy and toxic relationships. I’m talking the success that creates a loving, positive, and fulfilling relationship in the way that all can appreciate. There are plenty of factors but here are four I feel are good to start with. Read my book, How to Get a Man to Cherish You, for more help.
Far too many times we try to run away from being single, and find someone to be with before we truly know and embrace who we are. Some feel you have to date or be in multiple relationships to figure that out. I disagree, I believe you can achieve this in many other ways that don’t involve constantly getting into relationships that will likely cause more damage because you aren’t truly ready for one. If you don’t know and love yourself first then how can you expect someone else to truly know and properly love you as well.
If you start a relationship on lies then there is a very good chance it will eventually come crashing down due to more lies. Lies eventually catch up to us and in the process create an environment of doubt and mistrust that will only spread more negativity in all aspects of that relationship. I know none of us are perfect and chances are that all of us haven’t been 100% honest. We still should do better and embrace a more honest approach. Not just with that person but with ourselves as well. Ignoring the truths you feel inside is typically a setup for living a lie you know isn’t best.
Honesty is great but if you aren’t talking then you don’t have a chance to implement it and see how good it can be. We always hear communication is key and this is simply the truth. A relationship lacking in communication is one that is less likely to be successful. We can’t get to know each other or begin to have a greater understanding if we don’t take the time talk. Both sides should feel like they can open up and express themselves. This minimizes the chances of issues lingering and not being properly addressed. At the end of the day if we can’t talk to each other than should we really entertain trying to be together?
Develop a Friendship
When we are friends the other three on this list become a lot easier to accomplish. Many times dating is just an audition and the only people who go to auditions are performers. If we want to build something genuine with this person then we shouldn’t overlook the importance of being friends with that person. When a genuine friendship is in place you are able to enjoy that person for who they are and not necessarily what they can give you. It creates a great foundation for a fun, happy, and loving relationship. If they aren’t the type of person you would really be good friends with then why bother trying to be their lover?
I believe that is a pretty strong four to focus on. Personally I am a man of GOD but I like to write my articles in a way that people of any belief can appreciate and gain something from. So if I added one more to the list it would be about faith and spirituality but I’ll just address that in another article. Ultimately I feel we should focus less on getting a relationship and more on setting up the best relationship for us. One that can be fruitful and positive. It may take some time but it will all be worth it in the end.