In a world filled with internet gangsters, reality TV, manufactured food, and hair weave. It has become really hard to know what’s real and what’s fake. This principle holds true when trying to determine real friends vs. fake friends. People will smile in your face all day long, but then turn around and betray you with ease. Thankfully not everyone is like that, but how can you tell?
Well here are 3 ways to help you determine if your friends are real or fake.
1. Are They Givers or Do They Only Take
Some of your friends will call you in a heartbeat when they need something. They know you are always willing to help, and that makes life a lot easier for them. Days, weeks, and in some cases even months can pass without hearing from them. Yet, if they need help, you better believe it’s you they’re calling. When the day comes that you finally ask them for something, every excuse in the book is given as to why they can’t do it. They never offer you assistance, and bottom line they probably won’t. This is one clear sign you are dealing with fake friends. Real friends look out for each other, while fake friends just look out for themselves.
2. Are They Willing To Say It To Your Face
It’s not always easy to tell a friend how you really feel. It should be done, but sometimes you may vent to others about the issue. I’m sure some of you thinking that if they talk behind your back, then that is enough to label them as fake friends. I understand that position but don’t completely agree, because even real friends have moments of weakness. If they are constantly doing it, and making a blatant effort to speak negatively of you, then yeah there is a problem. The true test in my opinion is if you call them out on it, and they not only deny it, but go right back to talking trash about you. At that point there is almost no way around them falling under the fake friends category. Real friends should at least be willing to own up to it, or stop the behavior that is causing an issue. They hopefully would have already said it to your face, and hopefully as their friend, you would be willing to listen.
3. Are Your Friends Able To Be Happy For You
We are all human, and sometimes friends may get a little jealous of your accomplishments. I honestly think that is normal and doesn’t immediately mean you have fake friends. The issue is when they are never happy for you and allow that jealously to get completely out of control. They always have something negative to say or dismiss what is important to you. Real friends take some joy out of seeing you do better, fake friends get mad because you are doing better than them. A real friend should try to find a way to address the jealousy issue, but fake friends don’t see an issue at all. Just be mindful that being honest about bad decisions you may be making isn’t the same as not being able to be happy for you. A real friend will struggle with seeing you in a situation that you may not truly belong in, and you shouldn’t just dismiss them as being fake to defend your actions.
At the end of the day, take a look around and be mindful of who you are surrounding yourself with. Are they real friends who may struggle every now and then with some issues, or are they fake friends who always seem to create issues. You don’t need negative people in your life who will just hold you back from making progress. If a friend does one of the above things mentioned, talk to them honestly about it. How they handle it will make it much easier for you to see if they are just here for their own benefit, or if they can be counted as one of your real friends.
is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, Speaker, and Author of the #1 Best Seller "God Where Is My Boaz" as well as the Award Winning book "How To Get A Woman To Have Sex With You...If You're Her Husband". Stephan is on a mission to help men and women experience happier, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships. He is a highly sought after coach and speaker who has been seen, heard and chronicled in various national and international media outlets. soulmate