
12 Jul 8 Things a Woman Should NEVER Get Confused
Alicia Keys said it best, “A real man knows a real woman when he seeees her.” But what she didn’t know is that a real man was going to go write a book and tell these young girls to think like a man, causing them to get confused and make twerking videos on Youtube.
Basically, we got it all mixed up. We can’t continue going on rants about how lost our young ladies are without showing them the way. So I took it upon myself to compile a small list of the preponderance(you like that word huh?) that has our young ladies baffled. No, I’m not excusing men, but Rome wasn’t built-in a day, so work with me. For young girls who don’t know and for grown women who want to help out those following in their footsteps, these are the things you should NEVER get confused.
1. Sex for Love: He drinks a Red Bull, stretches, and even keeps his Timbs on; then acts like everything but a gentleman in the bedroom ’til your toes catch a cramp. But make no mistake, his heart is in his chest, not his underwear.
2. Attention for Loyalty: “But he’s coming home to me every night”=the cry of a woman who forgot her worth a long time ago. A man will have sex with your sister, drive home with the gas money you gave him, and say “Baby I had a long day, I just wanna cuddle” when you try to give him goodnight sex. You think that attention he’s giving you means you’re not sharing it with someone else? Yeah..ok.
3. Good looks for Beauty: You may go through life gracing every mirror you walk past, but if you treat everyone like they’re beneath you, your family will be the only ones at your funeral. The ones who do show up.
4. Real N**ga for a Real Man: Some girls want a guy to “put them in their place” like a parent does a child. A real man wants a woman who knows her place is by his side.
5. Compliments for Respect: He went and ‘liked’ all your bathroom sink mirror pics and recited a couple Drake lines so you think it’s real huh? The more you blush, the more he’s going to tutor his homeboys on how to get you to have sex after he tells you he’s “just not ready for a relationship”.
6. Nice personality for Good character: He can make you laugh. Check. He’s smooth with words. Check. He’s witty and can hold an intelligent conversation? Check. But on that weekend you’re on your period, will he turn down that one thirsty chick he used to have sex with that never learned to let go?
7. Lust for Chemistry: You know that tingly feeling you get when you first see him. Everything just seems right about his smile, his walk, and the way he looks at you? It’s called hormones, not love at first sight.
8. Cockiness for High Self Esteem: A bad b**ch has nothing on a woman who knows she’s a queen. Period.
So here comes that hug your Mom would give you after she gave you a whooping and told you you’d thank her for it later. Ladies, stop getting things mixed up. No, it’s not your fault you have to decode anything, but it’s better to know now than to be left feeling lonely years later running into the arms of some man who just isn’t for you. Knowing the game keeps you from having to play it, and if you don’t play it, you’ll never lose.
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Posted at 19:34h, 12 JulyAlthough it may hurt some, honesty never fails! Great advice and words of wisdom!
Alexia Madison
Posted at 21:37h, 12 JulySome of that was hard to swallow, but it’s good to know. Lol.
EJB
Posted at 23:39h, 12 JulyThe first two points is a little to vague for me. But I appreciate everything else
JAXN Tweets™
Posted at 09:06h, 13 July1. Great sex doesn’t mean he’s in love. Can’t take everything a man says to heart when he’s in the moment.
2.Just because he “comes home every night” doesn’t mean he’s being faithful.
aaliyah
Posted at 17:22h, 12 FebruaryIn a relationship right now with a married man and I know his wife be saying he comes home at night what about the nights he dont come home?
Barb
Posted at 19:11h, 12 FebruaryWHY would you choose to be in a relationship with a married man? Please run as far away as possible. He will not be loyal to you if he is cheating with you.
Angel
Posted at 18:27h, 25 AprilAalyah if hes married why and how can you call it a relationship????
Pierre
Posted at 20:39h, 13 JulyI haven’t made these mistake yet but I’m glad I read this
tiffanydenise
Posted at 15:59h, 07 Augustgreat
Ebony Huffman
Posted at 14:49h, 26 AugustYaaaaaaassssssss!!!!!! My God!
Demecos JustMeco Chambers
Posted at 14:44h, 11 SeptemberGreat sermon sir
Kimmy
Posted at 00:56h, 13 SeptemberThank you. Great advice and key eye openers!
Laneatrice Long
Posted at 00:37h, 17 Septemberthis is so true
Rebecca Mrtzs
Posted at 19:31h, 27 SeptemberSo true
Mary Nikki Jones
Posted at 00:30h, 30 SeptemberVery well put!
Pam Carter Harris
Posted at 17:24h, 05 OctoberYes I agree so true….
Dalma Antoine Brown
Posted at 01:32h, 13 OctoberHe is so right.
Dalma
Posted at 21:36h, 12 OctoberI totally agree with this post.
Sue Nassie
Posted at 05:04h, 14 OctoberYessir!!!
Angel McKenzie
Posted at 13:10h, 27 OctoberI agree
Star
Posted at 19:23h, 29 OctoberThat last sentence…Amen
Paige Jackson
Posted at 22:52h, 31 OctoberSo true. Had to learn the hard way.
Shavon Williams
Posted at 00:22h, 10 NovemberLove it! Love it! God bless you exceedingly and more abundantly above all you ask or imagine of Him. Amen:)
Joelle
Posted at 12:11h, 17 NovemberNice post. I need to share this
vanessa dennis
Posted at 22:30h, 01 DecemberThe part where he said just not ready for a relationship hmm I could relate to that …
Olivia Christchild Narcisse
Posted at 10:12h, 02 Decembervery accurate
Cathy Cagle
Posted at 22:19h, 19 DecemberWow I love it!
TruthIs TruthIs
Posted at 19:58h, 09 JanuaryWOW!!!!!!!
Shaya Barnes
Posted at 14:25h, 22 JanuaryMMmhmmm this will me screen shoot and sent to a few of my girls! Reality is not always wrapped with a bow!
Kathy MacKay
Posted at 23:39h, 12 FebruaryI'm old so can someone tell me what a boas is?
Rose DeVere
Posted at 23:55h, 12 FebruaryRead the Bible…The Book of Ruth
Kim Kemistry Bethel
Posted at 16:15h, 18 FebruaryTell it like it is…..thanks.
Chikita Humbly Blessed Jefferson
Posted at 22:31h, 12 MarchGreat article!
Tc Mngenela
Posted at 08:49h, 14 MarchIts not a TREND Kathy it's in the bible….read the book of Ruth.
Ashley Horsley
Posted at 22:11h, 25 AprilTrue
Sprinkles McFeverish
Posted at 22:36h, 25 Aprilyes great article Derrik.. but no need to look so angry in the pic
Verdell Marsh-Dawson
Posted at 02:30h, 26 AprilYou said that!!! Nothing but the truth!!
McJenn Soderquist
Posted at 05:04h, 26 AprilYup, the son of a senior played me like a game, he got what he wanted after a few months. Please. Just cause he goes to church most of his life, doesn't always me he is a good man, I was confused, angry and everything, I have facts on him that I could always show our friends, but waiting for the moment and I don't know if they will kick him out after hurting me, paying me as his sick game.
McJenn Soderquist
Posted at 05:04h, 26 AprilSon of a senior paster**
Lisa Deez
Posted at 04:30h, 27 AprilWow Tc, Kathy simply asked a question. It appears Rose already answered her. A month before you. Kathy also never mentioned a TREND Tc. 🙂
Derrick Jaxn
Posted at 07:01h, 29 AprilIt was the lighting. lol Thanks for reading
Derrick Jaxn
Posted at 07:02h, 29 AprilGlad you enjoyed it Verdell. Please continue to support myself and Stephan Speaks. God bless.
Verdell Marsh-Dawson
Posted at 07:11h, 29 AprilI will Derrick Jaxn. Bless you also. Keep it coming.
divasdestiny
Posted at 18:36h, 19 MayLOVE IT…SO ON POINT!!!!
Arlene Prioleau
Posted at 20:49h, 26 MayWay a man will tell they love u an when you don’t give them what they want he start calling name everything but the child of god in the being everything is OK but as time go no than the real them come out I pray ask god to send the right one there are not out I have seen him yet but it OK I just want to no where they at
Saundra Monique
Posted at 03:30h, 10 JuneDefinitely the truth it took me some time to learn all of this and now I'm glad I did.
Caroline Jackson
Posted at 13:59h, 12 JuneLove it my summer is going to be a great time to Learn why I enjoy being single at 40
Sylvia
Posted at 18:49h, 26 AugustThank you once again for your brilliance my dear Derrick Jaxn. Agree with most but not all, however, I adore your brain and how it works. Keep sharing. You are appreciated.
K EsStaire
Posted at 09:11h, 01 NovemberPreach
Jonnette M Doran
Posted at 14:34h, 01 NovemberGood advice
jdzs32
Posted at 10:36h, 01 NovemberI feel like I wear a sign on my back that says attracted to mamma boys I’m trying to get my relationship worked out now with my boyfriend and dealing with this
Qiana Browder
Posted at 17:29h, 15 DecemberU r awsome
Annet Khainza
Posted at 00:18h, 27 Decembervery insightful
Angel Voice
Posted at 11:45h, 08 JanuaryEvery woman must read this then just sit quietly and meditate.
Gail Hawkins
Posted at 00:21h, 09 JanuaryGreat Information
Tanisha Brown
Posted at 07:24h, 09 JanuaryWish I had this years ago
Gina Hepburn
Posted at 00:01h, 19 DecemberSooo true and needs to be heard. .
Thank you
Ralda Singleton
Posted at 01:02h, 21 DecemberYou are the best thanks
Elizabeth Emmanuel
Posted at 21:55h, 14 FebruaryGood advice