Guest Post by DatingEnlightenment.com: Is that new woman really the woman for you? Will you enjoy being with her for a long time, or will your relationship eventually head into disaster territory? Unless you can see into the future, you will not know for sure. However, there are some indicators that your relationship is going to stand the test of time. Following are six of those indicators.
1. Mrs. Right Has No Unresolved Issues
Past issues that have not been resolved are often referred to as baggage. That baggage can cause major problems down the road in your relationship. Common unresolved issues involve trust and self-esteem. For instance, if she has been cheated on in the past, and she has not dealt with that and let it go, then she may be holding on to feelings of anxiety and mistrust. Later on in your relationship that mistrust can manifest itself into blame, anger, and hurt because your relationship has not been built on trust (the backbone of a healthy relationship) due to her inability to completely trust you. If she has no issues, and has dealt with her past in a way that has allowed her to move on, then you get to start your relationship with a clean slate. This will allow you to move forward in a happy, baggage-free manner.
#2. Mrs. Right is Not Like Your Mother
Your mother gave you life and provided for you, but she also has a sense of ownership over you and your decisions. Your mother may want you to be someone you are not or pursue a career that you do not want to pursue. In short, she may not be completely satisfied with the man who you are. Ensure your woman is nothing like your mother. She shouldn’t be trying to change you into someone you are not. If she is, then she will end up disappointed in you when you don’t change, and you will end up resentful that she can’t accept you for who you are.
3. Mrs. Right is Not a Drama Queen
A drama queen is going to make your life miserable down the road until she loses the need for drama, which may or may not happen. A drama queen is someone who looks for negative situations whether they are there or not. If she is a drama queen, then she may start a fight with a waiter over a look he gave her or a woman who glanced your way. In fact, she is willing to make something out of nothing no matter where she is or who it is over. Life with someone who doesn’t make mountains out of mole hills will be less stressful and more positive. The right woman will not be a drama queen.
4. Mrs. Right Supports Your Dreams and Goals
The right woman will support you in your life and the choices that you make. In fact, she may be the only one who supports you! That is the beauty of a happy, intimate, and successful relationship; you always have each other’s backs, even if the world around you falls apart. If she shows signs of being your biggest supporter, no matter what your dreams and goals are, then she is going to make you happy no matter which way your life turns.
5. Mrs. Right Makes You Laugh
She may make you feel good and supported, but does she make you laugh? It is not enough that you make her laugh and feel good, she has to be able to return the favor. Life is better when you laugh your way through it, and having an intimate partner who can make you laugh will be a blessing when times get tough. And tough times are in every one’s future.
6. Mrs. Right is Optimistic
Do you want to spend your life reassuring a woman, or would you rather have a woman who looks at the cup half-full and needs little reassurance about the happiness in her life? Negative and sarcastic people may be funny or semi-grounding at first, but they will take their toll on your happiness in the end. Ensure your woman is willing to see the positive side of things on her own. This doesn’t mean that you won’t need to support her in times of trouble, but it does mean that she won’t spend her life focused on the bad and negative, and bring you down with her.
In the end, if she is displays the above six signs, the chances of you having a successful, happy relationship are much higher than if she doesn’t display them. The point is that ‘misses right’ is a woman who is going to make you happy for years to come, and if she doesn’t make you happy right now, then she probably won’t make you happy in the future.
Stephan’s Side Note: sometimes you meet the right person but at the wrong time. so for example if she still has unresolved issues that doesn’t mean she isn’t the woman for you it’s just that now is not a good time to get in to a serious relationship with her.