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6 Signs That He Is Mr. Right

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How do you know if the guy you’re dealing with is Mr. Right? Is he truly ready to be the man you need him to be, or is this relationship doomed to fail? It can be difficult to analyze if you have found your Mr. Right and ensure that you are moving forward with the man who is truly best for you. CLICK HERE to read my book The Man God Has for You: 7 Traits to Help You Determine Your Life Partner.

Below are some signs you can factor in that can help make your decision easier.

1. He Is Willing To Open Up & Be Honest

When a man feels comfortable enough with you to open up and be honest, that is a great indicator that you two may have a genuine connection. Men don’t typically open up easily, and it can be a struggle even with a woman he truly cares about. His ability to open up to you will help nurture great communication and allow you two to properly address any issues that exist.

2. Mr. Right Has Learned How To Be Self Sufficient

If he can’t take care of himself, how will he be able to take care of you. If you don’t mind raising a grown boy, then do as you wish, but know what you’re setting yourself up for. This isn’t about how much money he has but simply about his willingness to handle business when needed. If he truly cares about you, then he should want to alleviate some of your burden. If not, say hello to Mr. Wrong

3. He Is Protective not Possessive

Most men are programmed to be protectors and providers. So it is very natural that when a man truly loves a woman he will become very protective of her. It doesn’t mean he is ready to fight every guy that looks at you too long, but he will always look to keep you out of harm’s way. When a man starts to stop you from having a life outside of him, now he is being possessive. Don’t confuse that with love, it is about control, and Mr. Right knows the difference.

4. Mr. Right Listens

The fact that he can talk to you is just one part of the equation. The willingness to listen to you and not dismiss your feelings has to be there as well. A man who will not listen, is a man who will not be able to grow with you. Getting in tune with you won’t happen, and that will lead to plenty of conflict. When a man shows the patience and willingness to listen, that is going to be a great asset moving forward in a relationship, and that is a good sign that Mr. Right may be in front of you.

5. He Respects You

If a man doesn’t respect you, he doesn’t deserve you. It really is that simple but it gets overlooked far too often. When a man respects a woman he has the ability to love and care for her the way she needs. He is less likely to betray her or mistreat her. In some cases this respect is exactly what separates one woman from the rest. He can give you all the attention in the world, but if you don’t have his respect, then you have nothing at all.

6. Mr. Right Makes You Smile

Smiling is good for you and the man who can make that happen with ease may truly be the guy that is best for you. A man who is truly into you wants to make you happy, and will put in the effort to put a smile on your face. When he is Mr. Right It doesn’t necessarily have to be something specific he did at the moment, his mere presence can give you a boost of positive energy and make your day better. He should have the ability to uplift you and help steer you onto a more positive path.


The one thing I left out was, he should have a genuine relationship with God. I did that because we all have different beliefs and I want to respect that. The six signs I mentioned apply across the board so I will get into the spiritual aspect more in a different post. Just be mindful of making sure your spiritual relationship is where it needs to be first (if you are a believer), so check out the bestseller God Where Is My Boaz to get more insight. Like I mentioned in 6 Signs She Is Mrs. Right, sometimes it is the right person at the wrong time. We all need to grow as individuals and maybe the guy you meet hasn’t reached a point where he is truly ready to be the man he is going to be. So ultimately no matter how many of these signs you see or don’t see, trust your intuition. That can guide you to Mr. Right better than anything your mind can analyze. Be patient, and remember that focusing on building a friendship can help set the stage for you and Mr. Right

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225 thoughts on “6 Signs That He Is Mr. Right”

  1. Emma Gaynelle Pugh

    Huh oh, wrong person in the friend zone…thank you. And Mr. Right is definitely Mr. Wrong.

  2. Annabelle Kirchhevel

    I found Mr. Right!

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  4. The person who respect me from the heart must be Mr. Right!…Well,if i love him.

  5. Temisan

    This is a good piece, thank you for the insights. All I ask God is the patient as I wait for my Boaz. Its not always easy.

  6. Melissa Swain

    I love the last part!…must have a genuine relationship with God!…too many times we find MOG (Men of God) always putting up scriptures & encouraging words like yours & having soo many followers & basically looks like a dream for every woman. But to my dismay when I speak to them, they change their tune when you want to talk about God & their walk with God instead it goes to sex! Immediately I walk away & pray for them. I was not even interested in a relationship, that was friendship. Now I allow ONLY the Holy Spirit to guide me for God fearing friends & I believe I will just know when it is him in the meantime im focused on my walk with God. Bless you my brother!

  7. Charlotte Doris Garrido Lentic

    really reallt true!!!

  8. Ruby Tossie

    Stephan you are truly a genius !! I have to go read that book I bought and still haven't read from you smh. Love it!

  9. Thats the problem I have with two people in my life. One is everything but he is possive and I don't trust him. SO thats a no. The other I trust but he can't take care of himself. So in the mean time I am single believing there is someone better out there then either of them. Good read reaffirms that I am doing the right thing.

  10. Jasmira Hunter

    Once again you are on point. Thank you!

  11. Benita Edwards-Anthony

    Love this…

  12. These is not Mr. Right or wrong . Everything depends on how you handle issues. Only man can be wrong ? Not women ?

  13. Anita Cocroft

    Good stuff….I agree!

  14. Chantel Marion

    Very informative, thank you for posting this.:-)

  15. Nice, everything u said I already look for. Thank u!! For clarifying that I'm looking for the right things.Come on Mr.Right!! lol

  16. I really would like to speak to you regarding my marriage other than online… much to discuss….

  17. So sad I stay in my marriage for 21 yrs. After reading number four, It was doom! I stayed because I was committed to my love that I had . He left, and I'm still. standing by God Grace! Oh he wants to come back! I've never been more happy in my life alone! The doors Will not be reopen!

  18. Shaun Harrod

    Good Points. I think it's important to confront ourselves on key issues to help us step up instead of step out.

  19. Nuru Mkeremi

    And he is not hesitant to introduce you to his family and friends. …

  20. Christina McKay

    One thing you forgot to mention is kids. some of us who are actively seeking Mr. Right have been married before and have children as a result of the previous marriage. If you meet a man who wants to spend time with your kids and involve them on your dates as well as making one on one time for you, then you have a great man. Mr. Right will adore your children and love them as if they were his own. If he doesn't, then you need to let him go because he can't have you without your children. If he can't be there to love and support your kids with you, then you will never be able to see eye to eye on anything where the children are concerned.

  21. Renee Schoen

    Great post and much appreciated. I thought I was with Mr, Right, but the spiritual side was missing, hence we are no longer together. I read the book God, Where is my Boaz and it is a great addition to all of your insights. A must read! Ladies respect yourselves enough to wait for Mr. Right and trust in God that He will bring you the happiness you deserve. I am learning great patience through this process and finding a much stronger connection with God myself.

  22. I believe that once you are at at peace with who you are and comfy in your own skin that person will come along and be the addition to your life you have been waiting for. Words of wisdom from a single therapist lol!

  23. I agree! Especially the part about having God first an foremost in our life, cause without that, there's no future at all! Amen!!!

  24. Renee Schoen

    Wow, you don't miss a thing Kris! Lol…. I am at peace (now) and comfy in my own skin or I wouldn't be able to accomplish the things I have! That was part of the problem too. I'm just saying that since I've opened up to more of my spiritual side, I realize that is the kind of partner I hope to connect with (someday). This single life is the second time around for me; the first time I was alone for three years before the next relationship. Trust me, God gives me plenty of alone time to 'find myself' before jumping into a relationship, and I'm okay with that. Doesn't mean I don't enjoy companionship 🙂 Oh yeah, and coming from Mr. Single Therapist himself – great advice! Good thing I know you!

  25. Sharon Shah

    He is my perfect man but he didnt think so 🙁

  26. Ree Ree'

    Everything you said is exactly what my grandmother told me. God always should come first, because without him nothing is possible.

  27. Ree Ree'

    I am glad that you mentioned this, because my children comes befoe any man, and if he can't except them then you haven't excepted me.

  28. Ree Ree'

    You will find the one for you. Just be patient, and it will happen

  29. Shuelin Sy Perez-Yao

    If the man's family protects him by condoning his actions and being enablers, then time to say goodbye to the whole family

  30. Sheila Abt Williams

    Awesome & so true!

  31. Charlotte Walker-Harper

    For women; Need to know basis.

  32. LG Kathy

    You are wise, you definitely do not want to involve yourself in that kind of dysfunction. Been there, done that, nothing to gain for you. Onward and upward!

  33. Shuelin Sy Perez-Yao

    LG Kathy, I didn't know until it was too late that they were like that, I was suppose to accept him for what he is. Got the D last month, now getting over with my life after having my name not associated with him whatsoever. I had to learn it the hard way eventually after I saw something in the house.Now, my expectations are high, and finding it hard to trust now.

  34. I like this guy he speaks the truth I wonder how many men actually practice this hmmmmm

  35. great point but something else to look at if he has kids and doesn't spend time with them and if they are from several women then look again. He will show you his representative until he gets what he wants and later you will find out you weren't the only one. if you see another woman where he is at his events be careful she isn't friend. Mr. Right is honest forth right and his life isn't full of secrets. Sometimes we get these dream men who look good built, charming and that is all it is Ladies smoke and mirrors. I had a Mr. right lost to death but he did all the things above and more so I spot mister wrong very quickly.

  36. The most important part is to have real relationship and love for God, without that he can't truly love the woman the way God ordained

  37. Intisement Prod

    So true…..God first and the rest is elementrary my dears if u truely love someone ….for both sexes we must love right or loose

  38. Intisement Prod

    Boi sum need to read this

  39. Wanda Bargeman

    I agree but here again it seems to be double standard. You say or do something just to get a response from me then you go and write a post in a round about way. Is David your family? I know your the person but the games. Just mess me up. Don’t do games

  40. Barbara Recek

    Steven, you Rock! I am so thankful you are on the net to guide these ladies in the right direction. Coming from a man has so much more meaning.

  41. Tasha Jackson

    We'll my partner has that all but is 45 still living at home with his Mom…. ? So wht do I do?

  42. Keysha Hair Care Specialist

    I love it!

  43. Tiffany Phana Blackmon

    Inspirational…love it

  44. Derrick Arnett Ferguson


  45. One of the most honest pieces I've read in a while…touched my heart. Made my notes 😉

  46. Norma G Elazegui

    i am married for 42 yrs.. and all the signs that u mentioned are not him… .am fallen to a WRONG GUY .. that is why my life is MISERABLE…!!!

  47. Ramon S. Linsangan

    Ang wrinkles Ate Norms… punta kana lang kay Ate Meng Pabalan… I'm sure mag enjoy ka doon. Smile

  48. Angel

    This is good information. I’ve been seeing a guy who is some of these, but lacks the respect and opening up. I’m a professional woman with my own business and he is a pastor. We are doing well thus far, but I recently learned that he has a criminal background where he spent over 10 years in jail. He dresses nice and drives a cute little sports car. But when I asked whether he killed anyone, he became silent and changed the conversation. That has stuck in my mind since then. I believe God can change anyone and only he knows whether he is changed, but I’ve seen some other red flags like using profanity and perverse language. I wonder if I should wait it out or cut my losses and bail. My friends say get out while I can. What are our thoughts?

    1. cece10983

      You lost me at lack of respect. Get out now!

    2. kari

      Records are public… Run a report on him… Even if he had any record before and he is a changed man.. well who are to judge right? if he is not willing to open up it really depends how long u have been seeing him, maybe too soon? Maybe he just afraid? I may approach that question some other way, ask God for guidance. But if he is a Pastor using profanity? I dont wanna be judgemental but here is the real reason you should be worried about… Think with your head, align your spirit with God’s do not be deceived by ur emotions!!

      1. Nara

        Discern… Ask God to reveal him to you and he will. The red flags are waving girl… Focus on your relationship with God and leave this man alone.

    3. mmdccbslm

      alarms should be going off. RIGHT NOW!

    4. bertha j lewis

      my sister ,please read proverbs 14:verse 15. point if you already see certain things that is of concern to both of you. and cant be address that in it self ,is not very healthy for the relationship. did I read correctly a pastor????.

    5. Danni Blechner

      This has to be a joke right???

      1. ok so I thought I was the only one asking this. glad to know someone else is a little sane :/

    6. Dawn Campbell

      He is a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Be careful.

  49. Erica Anik

    Love this! I didn't find my Mr. Right….God brought him to me! If I didn't already have confirmation from God, this article would definitely have proven that my Sweetheart is Mr. Right.

  50. Devetta Forrest

    I so appreciate the mister right list. Grateful that I can CHANGE my direction in mind and behavior.

  51. Ann Dixon


  52. Sabrina Mckinnon

    Trust in the lord in all your ways and he will direct your path he will aloud the right man to cross you path so while your waiting do some praying and ask god to prepare you for that special someone.

  53. Better stop lying to these women they going to have a lot of lonely nights listening to you

  54. I am crying reading this, same thing happen to me. And oh god I am happier, I grew closer to god and is better on my own. I tough and agree with your comment @ Aundrea Townsel

  55. Gladys Torres

    When your dating someone and you have to constantly tell them to spend time with your kids and they tell you you cant make me love them, its time to move on. There into you not the whole package.

  56. Carmen Mock Thomas

    Mr Right is all the above ADORABLE and i love him to pieces,

  57. Thressa Burley

    If your guy is like this with everyone he dates , what makes our relationship special or unique ?

  58. Jase K Alston

    I could have wrote this. People are too desperate for relationship guidance if this is head-turning.

  59. Marie Thebeauty Victim

    I agree he will begin to make you one of his first priorities 🙂

  60. Gina Baliza Apuli

    i think i’ve found him already 🙂

  61. Charle Spice LiveyourbestlifeNow

    It's sad when Mr. Right didn't know that he was… 🙂 Win some, lose some.

  62. Austen Brent Williams

    And yet still single… but all this has taught me is just enjoy life.. it will happen when it's time

  63. Austen Brent Williams

    Everyone's relationship with God is different. But I for one believe and mine comes from a different perspective. You don't have to be a man of God to be in a relationship. I was married to a pastors granddaughter who was raised in church and she cheated. I can say I had my son outta marriage.. I also see what happens when religious beliefs are forced.. not everyone is meant to be married. . Some church folks are cool but most I've come across are extremely judgmental and feel they do no wrong. I rather be the way I am. A good man with good morals and fears God. But I know at the end of the day I'm not fake

  64. LG Kathy

    Hang in there, it is hard to do what is best for you sometimes, but you have done it, and if you have the courage to do that, you have the courage to go out there and bring a lot of good into your life! If it makes you feel any better. I left a relationship in January at 56 years old, but he was not putting me first or meeting my needs, yet expecting all that from me. NO !!!Don't look back and God bless you.

  65. Wish I paid attention to the red flags 🙁 I feel he was all this at first and was perfect but only for a few months

  66. Renee Armour-Birt

    Thanks I need to hear this!

  67. and don't forget the bestseller for centuries now, said he must love her as his own body , in other to have deep respect for him ,woman please don't ever try to change a boy in to a man, if you lady's know your kind of man, you will know when you meet him.

  68. Thank you for the great infomation.That's very wise and inspiring.Keep on keeping on.

  69. Trish Long

    This all sounds good, but, what if they have problems committmenting…??? Taking it one step further into marriage??

  70. Michelle Nunley

    Man was pretty much all of that, seemed like my perfect soulmate. Bliss for over seven months. Then one day out of the blue, he loses it and never speaks to me again. Turns out he is a narcassistic psychopath!!! Had no idea. First man I actually knew (thought) I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Just beware. I had no clue about this disorder, and to me everything was perfect…too perfect.

  71. I agree, especially about respect. personally I cud never honestly love a woman that I did not respect. If a woman would allow a man to do or say anything than there's no respect. A woman who doesn't respect herself, or doesn't hold a man accountable for both his actions or words would never experience true and genuine love in a relationship.

  72. Why bring god into this? There seems to be this popular idea that a good person you have to "be right with god". Pure rubbish! Nice article right up to that point…..

  73. McJenn Soderquist

    You both have to have simular/same interest to do things together.

  74. Christsbel

    Hmmmm, good things to look out for, the last point complements it all. Must be God fearing.

  75. La'Shanda Bradley Dorsey

    Stephen this IS me right now. I've spent 8 years thinking, feeling, wondering what can I do to make him happy, to love me more. My eyes are opening just from reading these tips you so freely give to ppl like me that need to know, it's not me, he/she is just Mr/Ms Wrong 4 me. I Am Loving ME RIGHT NOW And I am taking this advice with an open mind and a humble heart. God bless you

  76. What about a woman respecting the man, and listening to him also, is it just supposed to be a one way street. If both are not doing all of the things you mentioned it doesn't matter if just the man tries to do it, it still won't work, because in the end it takes two people working together to make a relationship grow strong and last long

    1. Jerry Adams

      Why are you telling this young lady she needs to pray? I wish I would have a situation and some ass tell me to damn pray. They will get their damn feelings hurt. Prayer? What in the hell is that suppose to do? Just damn ridiculous. And I bet your damn is ass is an African American, because y’all are the only ones always looking for a free handout. And by the damn way, what is this damn blue eyed, blonde hair Jesus suppose to do? Bring his damn ass back down to earth and solve her problem? Haven’t he learnt his lesson from the last time his Jewish white ass was on Earth? smh.

  77. london

    Hey everyone! I really need some advice from someone that’s older who won’t judge me or my boyfriend’s situation. Okay so it starts like this. I’m 23 and in nursing school and I met my bf one day when I was at work and by the kind of work I do I wasn’t looking my best! This guy kept coming by my job to get his car detailed and he tried to get my number on several occassions but I said no at first but eventually he wore me down and I gave it to him. Lol our first date was nice and the comminucation was like none other. I’m not use to a guy who actually wants to listen to me and who talks with alot of sense. Btw he’s 28 and he told me he has 2 sons and he can’t wait for me to meet them. They live in another state with their mom btw. He’s has a great relationship with them and I absolutely love it! But here’s where the problem occurs. Something happened and to make the long story short I called one of his family memeber’s phone and a young lady answered the phone. She told me that they have a baby on the way and that they spend alot of time together in which I don’t seen how because we are together alot but I know people find time to do what they want. She also told me that they were not together and that she figured he found someone else because he was distancing himself from her lately, well since he met me. He never told me about her specifically but I hate I had to find out the way I did. But me and him spoke about it and of course I was heated but he told me he doesn’t know if its his baby or not because she had a boyfriend at the time. But wait theres more! He also said that they only had sex one time when he moved here in which I know for sure is a lie because they’ve been knowing each other since middle school! They are basically family man! But what kills me is the fact that he went to his hometown about 3 weeks ago and while he was away she posted a video of them 2 at the baby sex revealing party and he seemed super happy and he had his arm around her smiling like a kid who just got a new toy or something! I don’t know what to do. He treats me right and I’ve never had a bf like him he’s a good guy but I just can’t believe what he says about the situation. I didn’t ask him about the video I saw at all and neither do I bring up my insecurities and thoughts about the baby situation anymore because I don’t wanna be a nagger. I just don’t know what to do. I can take the 2 that he has already but I’m not sure about this third if it’s his because he and the mom according to her they’re close. Im just tired of thinking about it. I need advice. Someone please help. I love him alot and we’re great together. We talk about marriage and he say he loves me too! He seems so genuine when it comes to me! He treats me like a princess and I love it! Its not even about the money or nothing. Whenever we’re together I never wanna leave him and then we help and motivate each other. The best part though is that we haven’t even had sex yet and our relationship is great! I don’t know if im being stupid or naive but I like what we have. Trust is just an issue and it didn’t start until I talked to that girl. He assures me that I have nothing to worry about and that he’s not going anywhere

    1. Dawn Campbell

      I would run fast. He seems to be dishonest. You are young, motivated and can have any man you want minus all his baggage. That video is a sign of who he really is. Don’t ignore it. I am sorry. I know it will hurt for a while to say goodbye but God will heal your heart. Best of luck.

    2. Nara

      Honey, listen your young… This guy isn’t serious about you because of he was he would respect you enough to tell you the TRUTH. Drop this zero and find you a hero!!!!!! Bottomline.

    3. Jerry Adams

      I hope you aren’t going to take any advise from another woman? It’s been two years what has transpired within since your posted this meme?

  78. jdzs32

    I believed I found mine however my boyfriend mother had a private detective validate me and she has had her hand in our relationship the whole time we have been together and he let’s her dictate his decisions concerning me and now he has accused me of lying about my job and another situation I’m dealing with saying he had his mother have the private detective check both out and I have proof of both and we are supposed to be working out our relationship and I haven’t talked to him at all this week and he won’t answer me to let me know what is going on he has told me he loves me and he will always love me. Should I give up trying with him?

    1. Nara G.

      Honey sounds like you answered your own question… If his momma in your relationship run in the opposite direction!!!

  79. Ayanna Asante

    I think the one I am friends with have all these qualities but we still working on our friendship

  80. Leah Waters

    How do you know if it's the right person just the wrong time? If the person is right then isn't it right?

  81. This was a very true session all i ask keep it real don't some men's want to go to's time to first get rt with god and what role y want in life being a selfish man.are a player now that is the truth .women have faults to i thank God I'm not

  82. I have yet the complete knowledge of being Mr. Right but I'm in progress of doing so. Praying in time in I find Ms. Right

  83. Hossay Kakar

    Mr right lets me feel lucky 🙂

  84. I agree with all the concepts, except Number 1. A man should never, never, ever confide in a woman unless he us married to her. Even then that's after a long perioid of time. Because what confide in her, will come back to bit you in the ass.

  85. Havilah Gates

    then he is not right. God always pairs the right things with the right seasons. so dont get caught up on something not being the "right" time

  86. Im curious. My boyfriend has a close relationship with hiis ex. Dated at 15-married 20yrs-divorced for 18. They have 3 daughters 38,36,30 -4 grandkids. They are together everytime the kids or grandkids get together. Which i understand. In communication about girls-grandkids. They also text every holiday, Hapoy New Year, birthdays,etc. To that seems like a bit much. Tge guy that i date says its about me being secure. I never expect or planned to do life so closely with his ex. His ex is married. This is not normal. Its great for the kids. Sometimes i think they cant let go of each other. Whars your thoughts?

  87. alot of the men i know are the men i grew up with…im still friends with them all and sometimes feel that out of all of them i believe 2 have those qualities…but because i moved out of that state its hard for me to determine anything with phone calls or text messages…What do i do?

  88. Erica

    hope the lord will help me i just got out of a big arguement and the guy i was with cheated on me so i really dont know what imma do i just want to cry i hate my life but maybe ill find the right guy someday maybe its not time for me to have someone in my life

  89. Basya-Yaffa Udiya Yisrael

    I like everything but the resect people belief,,,,, i am God fearing Hebrew Israelitewoman,,,,,,and if ain't YAWEH then its nothing,,,,, i have no respect for these man made religions,,,,,, you must be equally yoked,,,, putting our LORD GOD YAWEH first,,,,you can not love anyone or be faithful unless you are faithful to YAWEH. FIRST,,,,,,,there is only one way,,,,,through YESHUA our MESSIAH,,,, be atient wait point LORD GOD ALMIGHTY YAHWEH and will provide all things for you,,,,,,,,one must trust in YAWEH FOR ALL THINGS,,,,,,,BE BLESS

  90. Jessica Kelly

    I'm sure he can't avoid talking to her since they have kids and grandchildren together. However, he shouldn't brush off your concerns and call you insecure. He should take what you've said into consideration when dealing with his ex.
    Just my opinion…All the best of luck to you, Nicole 🙂

  91. You can love someone without being in Love with them. The question I would think is what is your relationship with the Ex. IF you and her get along very well and communicate a lot – it's less likely there would be any cheating as now it's like your are cheating on two people and a friend. If you are good friends with the Ex. It would make things a lot better. be it has to be a TRUE Friendship and not a Pretend so you can watch and pick her.

  92. 1. Mr. Right Is Willing To Open Up & Be Honest
    Nah, Never lie but always keep her wondering – it's good to exaggerate

    2. Mr. Right Has Learned How To Be Self Sufficient
    He has a job and even better he has the Hustle (legal) to either make money with his skills
    But better yet he has the Skills to save money around the House, Car, and Finances

    3. Mr. Right Is Protective not Possessive
    Hum ok Maybe – But every man a flirt so you gotta luv when someone flirts with your lady.
    Just don't go get stupid.. and let it be know flirting is now constantly pursuing

    4. Mr. Right Listens
    DUH – No Brainer – Women never stop talking – Not sure we hear anything though.
    Faked more than you fake orgasms

    5. Mr. Respects You
    Too Broad. I used look all the Time when I was married – Got pop side the head.
    don't think that's being disrespectful – Just keeping her on her game and reminding you how/way
    I chose you

    6. Mr. Right Makes You Smile
    A smile is Good – but a real man makes you Laugh. A lot of women smile when they get the Credit card.
    Some call it gold-digging most women can't help it. and don't even know they are doing it. You are tested
    just like men are tested. A fine women with now Sense of humor is about the worst thing a real man can't
    deal with. Even with a materialistic women that can be corrected.

  93. Tyra Sherese Peterson

    No, no, no, Jerry Adams Not all women betray men.

  94. Tyra Sherese Peterson You are right Tyra. I would wager 99.99% of women do. They don't make women like they used to.

  95. Mindinherown Biz

    Jerry Adams til you've dated 99.99% of women, you're correct like the women that have dated 99.99% of men.

  96. Mindinherown Biz Y Mindinherown Biz, I don't have to date 99.99% of the women to know what the truth is. It is what it is. And women are going to be women no matter what, especially African American women. Some people just can't wear the truth well. I'm just saying.

  97. Tyra Sherese Peterson

    @ Jerry Adams – I would say that I am in the 1% then. I am a very private person. I know from personal experience how difficult it can be to trust others, how it feels to be betrayed by others. I also know how difficult it can be for men to open up, trust, and allow themselves to be vulnerable and I respect those who choose to do so with me.

  98. Tyra Sherese Peterson @Tyra Sherese Peterson: There are a lot of men out there who have been betrayed by women who they thought they could trust. There are a lot of men who are in jail now behind women who they thought they could trust. There are a lot of men dead in their grave behind women they thought they could trust. As soon as a man think they can trust a woman either with his love or information most women end up betraying that man. That's why it's hard for a man to trust any woman. There are very few women out here who really stick by their man no matter what. Again, Tyra, I don't think women like that anymore. And if they do, they are probably like you, few and between. Men, especially black men, need women they can trust with his heart, love and information.

  99. There are a lot of men out there who have been betrayed by women who they thought they could trust. There are a lot of men who are in jail now behind women who they thought they could trust. There are a lot of men dead in their grave behind women they thought they could trust. As soon as a man think they can trust a woman either with his love or information most women end up betraying that man. That's why it's hard for a man to trust any woman. There are very few women out here who really stick by their man no matter what. Again, I don't think women like that anymore. And if they do, they are probably like you, few and between. Men, especially black men, need women they can trust with his heart, love and information.

  100. Mindinherown Biz

    You have to get to know an individual because one experience or perceived stereotype doesn't define any group as a whole. If that's the case that would give much logic to things ignorant.

  101. Mindinherown Biz I am not surprise that you are assuming that I am basing my response based on my personal experience. One could never be so wrong. Maybe you should reflect on the many times you have betrayed a male friend in your life. Or reflect on the how many females you know who have actually betrayed males in their life.
    Definition of be·tray verb bi-ˈtrā, bē- : to give information about (a person, group, country, etc.) to an enemy : to hurt (someone who trusts you, such as a friend or relative) by not giving help or by doing something morally wrong : to show (something, such as a feeling or desire) without wanting or trying to

  102. The same can be said for a man Mr Adams. You can't judge all women based on your experience with women you've been betrayed by. Just as it would be unfair for women to judge all men based on their experiences with men they've been betrayed by.

  103. Michelle Angelique Poitier : See how women automatically assumes that when men make a negative comment about acts that when women do, they assume that we based our comments based on self experienced. No my dear, my comments are based on facts and observation. Women can not deny the fact that they are ruthless, conniving, sneaky, devilish and untrustworthy. According you women, to whom I love dearly, I must have experienced this personally, even though all of this is written in your Bible that you ladies cherish so much. Women betrayal is so deep rooted within their DNA.

  104. Married don't change confide, you just don't agree with number 1 but don't say us married

  105. I am bossy n have a Supieroity Complex. Don't think highly of men. Have my reasons. Willing to discuss and vice versa. Don't be intimidated, let's talk, have fun, no pressure, be quick to put a name on our time together, relax. I'm 57 and ready to date. On FB….check me out. XxxOooo

  106. Michelle

    Again, just as all men are not ruthless, conniving, untrustworthy, etc.. neither are all women. I digress Mr Adams for assuming it happened to you personally. With that being the case, consider yourself blessed.

  107. I have read God where is my Boaz and I am now reading it again because of a question I presented to God about myself. ..and in saying that there is a part about healing that is detrimental when wanting to be in a relationship. …is all areas are not dealt with and healed it can cause that love you want to be placed on hold….i am glad I purchased the book and even happier that it still serves a purpose for me on another level of my healing

  108. k. Hudson

    I just started dating this amazing man, the only thing is, he’s not a Christian. I already know what the word says about that, but he is an amazing guy! Kind, loving, a provider, loves kids (I have a son) patient, intelligent, ambitious. He believes in God, he believes in love and family and loyalty. I can’t think of anything that has given me a red flag outside of the fact that he doesn’t consider himself a Christian. He prays, he forgives, he’s nonjudgmental, he’s discerning. He’s perfect! For me anyways. This whole situation has me wondering: are so many women single (church women) because they are looking for a man that’s too perfect? I mean, most other Christian women’s advice would be to leave him alone, but he’s so great that I would have to be crazy not to see where this goes! I forgot to mention he’s very handsome by my standards!

    1. Ms.G

      I too am in this position…I prayed for mr. Right and got him except for he is not Christian .. Does this mean he is mr. Wrong ??.. he would go to church if I asked him to for me but I want him to go on his own for himself and develop that relationship with God …. I don’t want to push things and manipulate him into going to church ..advice welcomed

      1. deedee

        Do he have to be Christian’s for you to love him ask yourself that….He believes in everything you believe in why is that not enough hes almost there maybe the man above choice you to give him the guidance help him find his way to christianity. Its plenty of people that go to church because somebody ask them, it be in that time that one day they are sitting in that church when they feel him calling decide to give they life to him.

    2. deedee

      Do he have to be Christian’s for you to love him ask yourself that….He believes in everything you believe in why is that not enough hes almost there maybe the man above choice you to give him the guidance help him find his way to christianity.

  109. Rashanda

    They are all wrong for me. I just want to be happy with myself first!!! ?

  110. Thank you for sharing and being honest. I have stepped away from relationships to get me together. Now that God has renewed my mind about relationships, men and myself, I'm ready to go forward. When we know better, we do better. God bless you all.

  111. Lol this makes me laugh. Hopefully you can work out your issues dude. And p.s, if you're stating "facts" u might wanna cite some sources and do some research. By simply stating these are facts does not make it credible.

  112. I know I've failed most of those things in my last relationship, but God gave me another chance to do right by her. I'm almost the perfect man ,I'm a work in progress

  113. Tyeshia Ferguson-Goshine

    I believe I’ve found my Mr.Right (soulmate)…. but he’s not ready for me. His mental and emotional stability isn’t equipped to handle a relationship since his mom just passed away. His complete honesty made me know that his intentions were honorable. I believe he’s worth waiting for….. And I’ll continue to be there for him during this difficult time.

  114. I truly enjoy your advice. I read and then self reflect. In a relationship but it's getting complicated…I have been working on myself for 5 to 6 years and then this man came along. Wish I could get him to work on himself. I may have to pray and move on. I know God has a plan for me.

  115. I like the insight. But my delima is my man is younger and hadn't experience this type of relationship. He has four out of the six points listed. I'm torn trying to figure out what to do

  116. These six signs are a great guide. I particularly like self sufficient and respects you. Thanks I made the right decision with Mr. Not Right.

  117. Stephan Ur spot on … I enjoy your posts and will, I'm sure, enlighten me further… Godly advice is always what we need….

  118. Hi Stephan, I too am a relationship Coach and the Author of The Man-ual (The Relationship Manual Written Just For Men). I enjoy your work and look forward to the weekly readings I signed up for. Good luck bro.

  119. Monica Stevenson

    I have been single for many years… I am tired of being by myself I pray everyday for God to send me my God fearing man for me and that He will not have a cheating bone in his body. I want someone to love me for me… I have been waiting for a long time.

  120. I'm already into the mood of teaching myself on how i should open mind to alot of thing, base on the little info that is available and i don't have the books in my hands/present as yet and i said books…. #excited

  121. Sharon

    I met someone with all qualities but said he couldn’t marry me because in God’s eye I am still married. I was divorced in 2009. My ex was incarcerated in 2001 and presently still there…

  122. I am simply over looking. I need to focus on Jesus right now. I "belonged" to a man for 6 years. Like the article says protection not possession. While I love him still, the relationship was extremely toxic and it would not behoove me to get into another relationship until I have detoxed from that poison.

  123. It's a great read thus far and very intrigued to learn more!! I'm waiting patiently for my BOAZ!!

  124. The saddest issue I see young women fail to value themselves … therefore they settle for men who are failing at life through lack of respect. Where there is no respect there is no love. There is nothing wrong with waiting on God, His promise never fails.


  126. Jasmin Hot-Waines I totally feel what you're saying. Especially since I didn't write the above comment. Someone hacked my page and decided to comment on something I shared.

  127. Kendall Evans and Te Tee R. Joseph Roland; Why am I just now seeing this Kendall? Jerry Adams only have issues with people, and I mean both mean and women, being disloyal. I've always had an issue with trusting people. And what really gets under my skin is when women say that they are a Christian. And then they turn around and stabb you in the back. However, I am sure there are women out there that are trustworthy. And can be trusted with your information. However, other than my mom, I have yet to find one and my mom has been decesed now since 1984. A lot of men don't trust women because 1) Women love to gossip, thus, they talk to much; 2) They are not loyal; 3) They are not to keep a secret; 4) Women make for the best liars; 5) Women cheats the most in relationships and marriages; 6) Women are to scretative and it's hard to figure out what's going or what they are thinking; 7) Women are to unstabled, thus not able to make reasonable and rational decisions at times. 8) A woman in most cases aren't able to control her temper and what she says at time. However, these are just my personal observation. However, there are many articles that gives more fact. So really Kendall Evans and Te Tee R. Joseph Roland, there must be hundreds of thousands of men out there who have some issues with trusting women. Like it's news to you. Of course that's always the woman's first defens that us men must be bitter because we must have gotten hurt by a woman. No ladies, it don't take all that. We just know women to be great liars, and untrustworthy. And it don't even have to be from personal experience. It's just in a woman's nature install in her by the females in their lives.

    Enjoy your read ladies and get back with me with your version of the truth. But I love y'all tho.

  128. #8 Mr Right knows how to admit when he's 'Wrong' and can say he's sorry! Sin always leads to problems. The sin factor has to be considered and the ability to admit it. Reconcilition after problems involves admitting wrong and a change in behavior. It takes only one person to forgive but it take two to be reconciled. …Two to tango for live 🙂

  129. God sent me the right man. God is first in his life and that is how it's supposed to be and the rest fall in place. ❤

  130. Yes dear you are right, different people bring out different things in each other. Some women wonder why their partner treats other people the way they only wished their partner would treat them and I believe part of the answer less in what you've said. Jasmine you are right too but, Aundrea also has a right to share and maybe it could be more of what she's not saying that you need to hear. She may be struggling to openly ask something. I'm hoping this is a Christian site so some people come looking to just be a part without being blown out of the water for not being perfect. And I hope you read this with as much love and gentleness as I put in.

  131. I agree what does racism have to do with it, racism much worse 75 years ago and many got married and stayed married 50-60 years

  132. Diane M Lancellotta

    you don’t say if you are married or single Stephan….just curious

  133. Diane M Lancellotta

    I just finished reading your book God Where Is My Boaz and it was a real blessing and very informative. I wish you could come to my church in Rhode Island and speak

  134. Luvina Martinbeault

    Mr. Stephan
    I truly feel that just once you should offer a free question and answer forum. Or just let us reach out to you, for I have so many questions. Yes I am a believer and God has lead me to you. Let him guide your heart as to giving aid in advice, for this Woman of God needs guidance. Thank you for all that you do.

  135. emma

    Can someone please tell me if I’m just being stupid but my partner and I have been together for 6 years 3 children. At the beginning I worked and supported him for 3 years. After our second child I gave up work he didn’t work for another year he has now been working for just over a year now and has asked for separate bank accounts and that he would pay half the bills (650) he earns 2000 a month but he wants to keep the rest for himself leaving me with £10 a month spare is this fair as he seems to think it is?

    1. Just want to help

      I would definitely not call you stupid, but I believe that you might have went too long with taking care of him. He appears to be spoiled and somewhat ungrateful. The unwillingness to take of you and the kids fully is very selfish. I would talk to him about where his mind is and why he feels the need for you to split the bills when you went for 3 years doing it all? He may need to feel like he needs to hold on to some money to make him feel better about himself now that he is making an income. I would probably cause him to make a decision and stop playing house and become a married household. Both of you deserve better than the half hazard lives you are living before your kids. I hope some of these thoughts help you. Be bless in Jesus Name!

  136. The one

    Think he’s the one will see!! We both feel comfortable talking to each other and he reads his bible spiritual. I love ❤ to be around him!!??❤

  137. Patricia James

    I’m really glad to have found this sight! I was trying to get input from a male friend inregards of a male interest of mine, that didn’t go so well. When I’m friends with a guy and nothing romantic is going on I think I should be able to share my male interest with no recourse. Well after I shared he started giving me the silent treatment. I never lead my male friends on, so I’m not sure where the jelousy stems from. Now that I have found Stephan Speaks I can share openly and get some needed advice.

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