social media networks are ruining relationships

Social Networks Are Ruining Relationships

Damn you Twitter! Damn you Facebook! To hell with all of the social networks that have emerged in the 21st century. Our relationships were getting along just fine before you got here. Love was real and all of you have come along to add unnecessary drama. You create issues that did not previously exist. You give access to our lives for everyone to look at, comment on, and stir up trouble. I mean damn, have you no shame.  Must you cause the demise of all these great relationships that could have lasted and lived happily ever after? You suck Facebook! You suck twitter! So how about you and the rest of your Social Network buddies just kill yourself and leave our society alone!

Ok if you haven’t figured it out yet that intro paragraph was absolute sarcasm. I mean come on people, really? I don’t know how many times I have heard someone blame social networks for messing up their relationship. Are we so unwilling to take personal responsibility for what we do and for the bad relationships we choose to be in that we will blame a tool that can’t control us, we control it! Oh let me guess, Twitter has an auto tweet function that sends out inappropriate tweets to other people who aren’t your significant other. Not to mention did you all hear about that Facebook app that makes you misinterpret someone else’s status to be about you or assume negative things about your relationship. Please understand that our actions are OUR actions. So social networks are not the problem, we as people are the problem. All the social network is doing is exposing the fact that maybe your relationship isn’t what you thought and hoped it was. It is making it harder for men and women who aren’t truly ready to be in a relationship to be able to hide this fact and their unnecessary behavior. It makes it clear when some men and women have deeper insecurities (rooted in that relationship or relationships from the past) that need to be addressed. There are many other things these social networks expose but I think you understand what I am saying here. We can’t keep looking for a scapegoat to explain questionable behavior. For those of you who feel “well if not for social networks then I wouldn’t get caught and that is my issue”. Well here is an idea, don’t do things that can get you caught up. If you want to creep, don’t be in a relationship and just date whoever you want. Social networks can’t make you do anything you don’t want to do. You have a choice so start making better choices.

We all have to get to a point where we can be honest with ourselves about our shortcomings. We should to be willing to acknowledge when maybe we are in a relationship that isn’t best for us. Maybe we just aren’t ready yet to be in one, or the person you are with isn’t truly ready. Nothing wrong with that, but being in denial about it will only create more problems and cause more damage. Some of you choose to run from Social Networks as if it is going to cure the issue. The issue isn’t going anywhere because you are not addressing the real problem…YOU or THAT PERSON. Either way it definitely isn’t some website that has no control on what we do. Allow yourself to accept that reality and give yourself an opportunity to properly address what needs to be addressed. Now go tweet this article and like it on Facebook : ).