There used to be a time where if you wanted a date, you had to go out and find one. Finding a suitable mate meant putting yourself out there and actually walking out of your house. Of course there are exceptions such as being hooked up by friends and family usually with someone who their punk asses wouldn’t date themselves : ). Other than that, it was on you. Well now we live in an age where convenience is king. Everything is being made easier and more accessible which includes finding a potential partner. So with this new wave of convenience comes online dating. Many women as well as men are facing the decision of taking this new approach in searching for companionship. Women though seem to have much more concerns and are a bit more hesitant with this process. I have been asked many times what my thoughts are on it and with that here is my view on the good and bad of online dating.
The Good: Well as already stated it is extremely convenient. You eliminate all the extra time and money that you may have to spend otherwise in attempting to put yourself in a position to be noticed and found by a potential mate. I’m not saying there aren’t free non-online ways to go about this, but for most it does cut some extra cost. Not to mention that these sites do a lot of screening for you. It filters out the people you don’t really want to have to entertain and if one slips through the cracks it is a much easier rejection process. The idea that these people could be crazy; well these are the same people you may meet at your job, school, church, club, etc. A lot of people go online in today’s world; it isn’t just a place for nut jobs and weirdo’s.
The Bad: If you are a man, there isn’t much bad I can point to from online dating. Aside from the occasional woman who may give some false representation of her actual looks and qualities, there isn’t much else to complain about. If you are a woman, online dating can easily turn into a nightmare if you come in with the wrong expectation. Listen clearly; the men on these sites are no different from the men you meet anywhere else. With that said, the majority may only want to get that ass. Seriously, just because it is a respected dating site does not mean there aren’t men that are simply there to find action. Some may be there genuinely, but if after a date or two he realizes you aren’t the one, well then getting that ass becomes his consolation prize. So understand that no matter how much screening and filtering the site does for you, you as a woman still needs to have your own process of determining how serious this guy is and if you both are on the same page with the relationship. Other than that, women also have watch out for the false representation, but I don’t think that issue happens as much as it used to…I think.
Overall I think online dating is a great option. It really helps make the process easier but you still must take personal responsibility on evaluating your potential partner. You can find many success stories and these couples can attest to how well going online worked for them. There are many good sites to choose from so do your research and go with what works for you. I do not think you should lock yourself in your house and put all your hope on just this one option, but I definitely think it should be included in your list of options when trying to find a partner. Don’t limit yourself when it comes to finding love because you never know how it will come and with who it will be with.
is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, Speaker, and Author of the #1 Best Seller "God Where Is My Boaz" as well as the Award Winning book "How To Get A Woman To Have Sex With You...If You're Her Husband". Stephan is on a mission to help men and women experience happier, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships. He is a highly sought after coach and speaker who has been seen, heard and chronicled in various national and international media outlets. soulmate